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  1. malevirgin22

    malevirgin22 New Member

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    is it that many people that i talk to on the net (and people in general) ... see a male being a virgin at 22 as an extremely unique thing ... surely im not the only one whom is still a virgin at 22 ...
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    my bf is 23 and had only just lost his virginity to me and if you muct know im proud of you, coz there isnt many guys or gasl out there that actually wait insteda of jumping into bed with the first persdon they meet *hugs* be proud hun, believe me you wont regret it
     
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    No, you are not the only one - but you re a member of a unique group. It's sad, but true.
    Of my 3 children, only one married as a virgin, and that was our youngest son. Strange, but I get the impression that more young men than young women remain virgins longer.
     
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    yer i agree with you rose coz now well especially near me more and more hmm teenagers are getting pregnant coz they want a child they want a baby and if they get that they get a house and so on and so on , its now not about waiting for teh person you love to come along its more about what can we get from it all well maybe thats just me but thats whats happening round here
     
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    Hi Guys, Im new here, Ive got a sexual problem that noone seems to be able to solve and was wondering if anyone could shed some light on it. Antidepressants and low sex drive (libido), or great lack of!, in a nutshell. PLEASE HELP, this is having an awful affect on our relationship. Cheers.
     
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    I'm sure you right ... but sex seems to always playing on my mind, just seems like sometimes it would be easier just to do it ...
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    Just out of interest, how did you know your youngest son was a virgin at marriage? I wouldnt of thought that would something a son, would tell a mother. I know i wouldnt tell my mother something like that...
     
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    sex was on his mind alot and it played alot on my mind aswell but fr sum reason the thought of jumping into bed with some random person didnt appeal to me try reading the sex with lust or love thread that might give ya a clue, sex with sumone you care an love is much better than normal i reckon so go take a look x
     
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    Yeah - but we've always been pretty open in our family. And out of the 3, he was the MOST open. He wasn't ashamed to share anything with me. Wet dreams, masturbation, pornography.... and it really bothered him that his friends made fun of him because he was a virgin, and wanted to stay that way till marriage.

    Hang in there, friend! My son waited, and it was worth it. He marrried an absolutely gorgeous girl (also a virgin) and they just had their first child a month ago. :tup
     
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    Yea, I can agree with your little tid bit minxy. I am still a virgin, 21 this september! I am looking forward to seeing the day when i find the right person i can trust with that gift. I think I found her?!

    A lot of prople I think have kids so that they can get child support and government money. But also i think it's a lot of immaturity and unwillingness to to do the smart thing and not accept the child. Some people may be against termmination, but in some cases where a teenager has a baby, and is not responsible enough or don't have the funds to support a child, then i think termination is a necessary thing. It's A pretty amaising thing to whitness life being born and bring new life. But....phf..Some people just are not ready!
     
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    I am currently 33 and married. But I was a virgin until I was almost 24. I agree with Rose - there seem to be less young female virgins then men.

    The most important thing to realize is that most people don't have the lurid sex life that they say or that you might think.

    Also most people that are late virgins take sex seriously. This is a good and emotionally healthy trait for long term relationships.

    After a couple relationships I found a girl who I was crazy about. I asked her if we could wait to have sex till we got married - she said 'No'. Odd - never though that that would have occurred. Didn't marry her anyways.

    My wife started earlier (16) however I found that her past was not filled with as much sex as I thought. In the last 3 years we have had more sex than either of us had while we were single and free. So don't worry - when you find the right woman, you can make up for any lost time you might be worrying about. It will mean more and be more fun.

    Good luck.
     
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    Wow,

    Thanks for all the help... i really appreciate it, seems to have enforce much of what i was already thinking...
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    Though the think is ...

    Once i were to be with a woman, would i know what to do? Does it come down to instinct? or what ... well i guess i have watched enough porn to have some idea :eek
     
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    well you should know the basics anyways so yer u just take it from there. believe me its not as frightning as i thought it wud be coz me and my b/f were both virgins and we were scared as hell but yer ya just know what u gotta do so dont worry :):) smile and have fun and good luck on finding that special somone i hope they understand how big this gift is that u r giving them xxx and i hope they cherish it
     
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    LOL - don't expect what you see in porn, or you will think yourself a failure, and your mate.
    I believe there are alot of instructional videos that not only give the basics needed, but also provide some tender, romantic foreplay ideas. I do believe most will come naturally, especially if the woman you are with is 'the right one'. Just be patient with yourself. Every person on the face of this earth was a virgin at one point, so your starting off at the same level.
     
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    I agree with Rose - put the porn videos aside in your head. (this is pre-prescribed scene with directors and people that dont have commitment and there is a lot of out-takes).
    Sex is something that is created by the two people involved. It will be slightly different depending on who you are with. This is part of what makes it special - being a physical expression of the two peoples relationship and affection. If you try to make it something it is not - you might mess it up. Just relax.
    Don't worry - nature has been having animals do this successfully for millions of years without a handbook or instructional video.
     
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    most of all just enjoy it all, i guess its kind of a learning pathway, learning what eah other likes and wants whats good and whats great and like rose said we were all virgins at one stage or another and have gone thru what u will be going thru :) keep smiling you will be fine sweety x
     
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    Sounds like something a vet would say. :lol Good point Eros. I didn't have a hand book back when I started out. Come to think of it, Rose does say when it comes to sex I'm an animal! [​IMG]
     
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    A.. i thought you two were involved in some way.(Rose and Eros)
     
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    :whoa
    L.O.L. - now the rumors are flying for sure! :lol
     
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