[Ask a Guy] Why so little moaning?

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  1. Vanja

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    I've always found it very frustrating if a man stays silent during sex - there is nothing more sexy than a grunting/moaning man who can hardly control himself. That's why I always have to weed through a lot of porn videos before I find one that does it for me.... the woman is usually way too loud and it's like listening to a fork being scraped on a plate :yell

    Thankfully my man does not come with a silencer so I can't complain too much :D

    But why why WHY don't men make more sounds? :poke
     
  2. Mittimer

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    I am right there with you.
    I've only been with two guys and the first one literally was stone faced and soundless. If it weren't for the fact that I watched him remove the condom I would have thought he never came. It was boring as hell.

    My guy now is a heavy breather, grunt, moan type of guy. I love it. He's also very vocal as in he'll tell me when he's enjoying something when to go harder ect.

    His sounds are what get me going.
     
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    I am with you, girls. Very few men I have been with are the silent type, but noises, groans, talking, exclamations of "Oh my God" all turn me on. Plus, I love it when they yell and moan when cumming. Makes it way hot, and lets me know they are done, LOL.

    Yes, why are some of you guys silent? Doesn't it turn you on when we are vocal?
     
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    Its very very difficult for me to remain silent. Ive had to many times when in earshot of unsuspecting people. I still always let out something lol. I am very dominant when my lady and I get into it so we are nowhere near quiet lol. My apartment niegboors have banged on the wall and cheered many times ;)
     
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    ask



    Double standards?
     
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    Ask what? What kind of double standards?
     
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    every one seems to claim about using communication.
     
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    We ask our guys and we're asking guys were why they are so silent. It's not about lack of communication in relationships.
     
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    thats because overly sensitive spots are hidden under the foreskin (at lest for me it is)
    I avoid that area as I do not want to make a lot of noise
    when jacking off lol....
    and if the guy is cut he may not fell much at all as the sensitive spots are removed
     
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    ..that doesn't answer WHY a guy may or may not be silent. My guys cut he moans. The guy I was with before him, is cut, he didn't moan AND he lived alone. There wasn't any excuse.
     
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    I usually moaned during orgasm. (I don't see that it makes any difference if one is cut or not). Sometimes I even do it when alone and masturbating.
     
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    I always heard circumcised guys were more sensitive. Either way, I think it's the orgasm that causes the guttural moans rather than super sensitive contact.
     
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    My guy is frustratingly quiet during orgasm from intercourse or oral but noisier when I use my hand on him. He's not the most vocal person normally, so I just guess it's part of his character.
     
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    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! I'm loud as hell! I'd wake the dead if they could be awakened.

    I'm not kidding. When it feels good, by damn, your gonna know it! How can I expect her to be vocal if I'm a dead-fuck myself? Really.

    But then again, I like to talk dirty to her, throw in the occasional (playfully said) "slut" comment, you name it. But NEVER EVER silent.

    I'm totally with ya on this one girls----------wtf is up with the silence, you guys?
     
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    Usually, when we guys are silent, it is because we are trying to mentally recite the name and city of every college/regional/professional sports team in a geographic area, to distract ourselves from having an orgasm too soon. :)
     
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    I'm with the women here on this one also. I'm loud and when the wife is really on her game I can lose the ability to speak the English language coherently. A good loud moan or grunt of some kind can be shorthand for, hell yeah, keep doing that!
     
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    For me an orgasm during PIV sex is different from an orgasm I get from a blow job. The blowjob with her tongue swishing around on my sensitive parts causes an extreme whole-body extravaganza of sensation that makes me spasm all over, interrupting my breathing and muscle control. I make noises like I'm dying from pleasure and it takes me a minute to regain my composure. Maybe similar to a woman's clitoral O.

    An orgasm during intercourse is more localized to the feeling of ejaculation without the stimulation to the sensitive head of my penis(in the wide open interior of the vagina) and I focus more on the feeling to enjoy it. I make some noise from the quick exertion, but there isn't the same sort of raw nerve stimulation to cause me to spaz out and make uncontrollable noises.

    But that's just me.
     
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    That's right, how else are us girls suppose to know that we're doing it right??
     
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    I've teased my guy about this too. He rarely makes any noise. With me I am sure every neighbor within a 5 mile radius knows if I am having a good time! I would love it if he were more vocal. Grunts and moans turn me on and get me going. But then again, since he is so quiet, when he makes any noise, I really know he likes what I am doing =P
     
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    I throw in some ahh's and "That feel's so fucking good" here and there. If it's feeling good though, I will let her know for sure!