Why sex?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by tristar96, Jan 15, 2011.

  1. tristar96

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    Hey everyone, im new here and was wondering if you guys could help me out. Im a 24 yo male and I dont know why I feel like this but why is sex so god damn important to everyone? Like I just dont feel like having sex at all. The last time I had sex was the end of summer and Im not feeling like sex is all that great to what it is made out to be. I dunno what it is, but its like i dont need sex at all to live my life. Its good but honestly i could live without it. I dont know why i feel the way i do but its almost like a chore I have to do when im with a girl. Like i would honestly prefer jerkin it then the real thing haha. I just dont want to be like everyother guy who brags about how many girls they slept with blah blah, sex is boring lol. is it normal to feel like this?
     
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    Something tells me you're doing it wrong :p
     
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    i dont think that is it. Like if i were a normal guy id be all over girls in the sack, but i just dont have that motivation lol
     
  4. Trond

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    Much of it is in your mind even if you are having sex with an actual person. What I mean is that if you don't go bunkers by the thought of running your hands over your favorite lady, seeing her naked, and all that, then just putting your penis in her is not going to do any miracles.

    I have sometimes felt like that. Those were the most boring five minutes of my life:lol. Ahem..Sorry.
     
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    you honestly need some sexual healing where the gal makes your heart go boooom
     
  6. Trond

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    DO you jerk off? If so, do you have any fantasies? If not, then I doubt that anybody can teach you to be horny. It's not the end of the world, but you may have to perform some sexual acts for your partner (as in the old "lie back and think of England":D, could be a bit more difficult for a man though). If you do have fantasies, then try to play around with those together with her.
     
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    I have a primal need for it, and I think most people do, if your sex drive is low, you may not enjoy it as much for that reason alone. Anticipation is a huge factor. Although the biggest thing for you might be not having sex with people you genuinely care for and want to make love to. If that is the case, when you do find that, it will be a different experience all together.
     
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    You may just have a low libido and there is nothing wrong with that. There is no reason why people *should* have or want sex; if you are happy not having it very often - or ever - then just don't have sex!

    But do, please, please, make sure that you bring the subject up with any girlfriend you have. It can be very frustrating to be in a serious relationship with someone who has a very different sex drive.
     
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    Is it possible that you might not want sex with girls? U might have better & more satisfying experiences with men or shemales - its becoming more common every day. Just out of interest, what do you fantasize about when having a 'ham shandy'? If it makes you cum, its what you want.

    If not, you might have a brilliant career as a monk lol......
     
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    probably you just have low testosterone, most guys have more then you I think which is the hormone reposonsible for sex drive. I personally would rather have sex then jerk it, and have a pretty high sex drive. but whatever works for you
     
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    I can honestly say I am 100% the opposite I would love sex few times a day to me sex is amazing everything from the emotional, physical, scent, love it all
     
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    Keep in mind, guys don't do half the shit they talk about.
     
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    Dear Tristar, folks need the basics of food, water and shelter.
    To some, like a lot of folks gathering at this site sex is an essential part of who they are and how they function normally.
    There is no right or wrong in libido level so long as when you share your body and life it is with someone entirely compatible in that department otherwise someone suffers badly.
    Live the life you are happy with and let others do likewise without fear or favour.
    Amen.
     
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    very true guys, thx for the responses. i feel different towards sex i guess. Your probably right a low libido or something. Its like I feel i have to have sex cause everyone does and its whats normal in society. But i guess its just me haha
     
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    and im not into trannys or anything like that hahah
     
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    You wanna lay some serious scratch on that????

    I'd have to think it's a testosterone thing, I've always had a high sex drive. Much rather sink the pink than hand crank.
     
  17. Trond

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    I can. Look no further than your own rather unhelpful ramblings.
     
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    And what have I made up?
     
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    All I am saying is that many of your posts come across as bragging. I will let HardRocker speak for himself as to what he was talking about though.

    Sorry for derailing this thread, by the way.
     
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    hey man one thing I'd suggest exp. If your insurance will pay for it is a basic blood work up. Testing your testosterone levels might be solve a lot of the mystery.
    Not only sex, but lethargy and trouble losing weight as well.
    Not that you have those issues...