Why is cum so important to a man?

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  1. Barbwire

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    OK, so I don't claim to be an expert on men, but I think I know enough about them to understand the basics. One thing that I can't for the life of me figure out is, why is their cum so important to them?

    I mean, seriously, look at the posts here and you will see what a big deal it is to them. They obsess about how much they make, how far it shoots, where they can deposit it, if a woman will swallow it, blah, blah, blah.

    What is the big deal? Why all the concern? I mean, it's just stuff that comes out of their dicks, not any measure of their manhood or skill as lovers. (I'm not talking about sperm here, or fertility)

    Guys, please help me to understand why you think cum is so damned important?
     
  2. heelfetish

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    I'd say it takes second rank to the size of one's member in terms of importance. :eyes

    Seriously though, what else does a man have to measure his manhood? We've got dynometers to measure our car's power output. We've got SPL meters to measure our stereo's output. Our cum is just our way to measure our 'Manliness'. :lol

    Don't tell me that women aren't concerned about their breasts size, shape, firmness, etc. This is just the male insecurity equivalent. :)
     
  3. Barbwire

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    See, to me, a man's manhood is measured in his level of maturity, compassion, ability to love, sense of morality, and much more. It has nothing to do with bodily fluids.

    You are right about women and their concern over their bodies, but I am talking about men here and only men. Another thread can be started if we want to delve into women's concerns, but right now, let's talk cum. ;)
     
  4. heelfetish

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    I was only being silly, CL. Of course cum has nothing to do with anything. However insecure people seem to have the need to constantly 'measure' everything. The size of one's member or the output of said member can be measured. Things such as maturity, compassion, love and morality cannot be measured.

    I'd measure my cum output, but I don't have a measuring stick that long. Teehee!
     
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    Apart from maybe my angst ridden teens I don't think I have ever cared about the amount of the output as long as there was some. And as for how far it shoots, well... to the end of the condom did me fine.
     
  6. Barbwire

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    There's no room for silliness here, Heely. I'm on a dead serious fact finding mission. I need to know this vital information if I am to seduce all the men on the planet, enslave them, and force them to screw me 24/7, rub my feet, and clean up after my livestock.

    Now run along, you silly man.
     
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    CL,

    I made a post the other day about why shooting too much cum can be a bad thing... I wish I didn't shoot as much as I did, but this is how I was made, so not much I can do about it.

    I personally never cared if I could shoot far, a huge load etc.

    However, I do wish I could cum in my g/f's mouth more (she is afraid of my cum gagging her so she won't do it anymore).

    It feels amazing when a woman gives you a BJ and lets you finish in her mouth. Having her build you up to this huge orgasm, then taking her warm, wet, delicious mouth off your penis and finishing you with a handjob isn't anywhere near as satisfying as her letting you finish in her mouth (I don't think any guy would disagree with this).

    When I used to not use condoms, it was always exciting to see my cum drip out of my g/f, or to roll down the curves of her ass after I just cummed on her.
     
  8. Barbwire

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    But why?
     
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    The amount of cum, or how far it shoots has never been a big deal to me. That is just as well because now (due to some meds I am on) I sometimes have no cum at all, yet the orgasm feels just as good as when I'd shoot a big load. If one is having PIV sex you can't tell how much or forcefull your ejaculation is anyway. (From what I have read, many women cannot feel their guys cum anyway).
     
  10. Fliteskates

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    There is just something hot about seeing my cum on her... it is messy and it signifies the ending of something that felt very good. The more there is, usually the more aroused I was. So I know if I shoot more than usual, then I was really turned on and the sex was really hot.

    Because it means my g/f loves me enough to let me cum on her... I'm the only man allowed to make love to her... to be allowed to cum on her... it is a special thing when a woman decides she loves you and trusts you enough to let you cum on her.
     
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    Wow such a deep question....what makes it so important...I have never thought about it. Personally I have never thought it that important. Hummm...that only think I can think of is, we do not produce a ton of it. kinda like supply and demand. Some women like to see the stuff shoot out and have it get all over them. Some like the feel of it blasting inside of them. After they are done and release what they have, then that is it for a little while. If they cum again immediately, it isn't as much. So I would guess that in thier eyes, a woman can cum many times, but a guy only gets one good cum shot. So it becomes more valuable to them because of that....
     
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    I don't know... The less I shoot the better it is for my partner sometimes. Less to clean up :eek:

    Personally I love her juices all over me, but she doesn't like that either :(
     
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    I agree with CL, in that how much cum, or how far he can shoot it, has absolutely no effect on my opinion of him as a man OR my opinion on his lovemaking.

    Men compare themselves to each other with this measuring rod. Not knowing (or caring) that women in general are not the least bit impressed. Hell, women usually don't even notice how much comes out, but it doesn't matter.

    :shrug Who knows what derelict came up with it, but guys have bought it hook, line & sinker!
    Perhaps Porn.... ya' think? :lol

    Back to real life: What's MY attitude? All that matters to me is that his orgasm is the same mind-blowing experience (with or without a big load).
     
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    Never gave it much thought. I love to watch it shoot and drip though.
     
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    Yeah, it's really 'just a guy thing'. Much the same way we women compare our body image to other women, like Heely said. In the big scope of things, of course it's sill - but it seems to be ingrained in human nature, and gender-specific.

    I doubt your lack of understanding this ONE unusual thought process will deter you from conquering ever man on the planet. And I'm being dead serioous!

    :brow
     
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    I couldn't care less how far it shoots or how much there is or how much I produce. Obviously I want there to be enough to one day get a future wife pregnant, but other than that I don't care. I think the more that there is the stronger the orgasm, but in the moment I really don't notice. Sometimes I do care what it tastes like, my "friend" doesn't like bitter things so I drink a lot of pineapple juice before seeing her to sweeten it ;)
     
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    Not concerned with how much or how far myself......just that I do. Think in only matters in a Porn movie.
     
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    Bravo bravo! :cheer:toast:bow:flip

    I think this is a realization of maturity for both sexes: what's on the outside IS important to some extent (you can't have a romantic relationship with someone you find repulsive or ugly, etc.), but what's on the inside (not meaning the gooey stuff that was the original topic) is SO MUCH MORE important.

    BD
     
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    You are the coolest woman! I have often wondered the same thing!
     
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    I wish mine wouldn't shoot at all. 2 kids are enough for me.