Why I love cyber sex

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Barbwire, Feb 5, 2007.

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  1. Barbwire

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    I would never have thought of cybering anyone up until last June, when a guy I had been kind of flirting with, out of the blue, sent me the most erotic story I had even seen. It got me so hot, that I was floored. Being the competitive person that I am, I wrote back something just as hot.

    I was at a point in my marriage where I was so frustrated and disgusted with my hubby that I was seriously considering cheating on him. I just had an incredible itch that he wasn't even going close to scratching and he turned me off more than on. I am not putting all the blame on him, it was a 2 way street.

    Anywho, through all of my interactions with my cyber lover, I was getting some sexual relief and also was having a lot of really steamy ideas planted in my head by him. In turn, my need to outdo him, made me think of some sexual situations that I had never tried before, but were always at the back of my head. I took some of those ideas and applied them to my real life and the sex got a lot better for hubby and I.

    I am not saying it is for everybody, but I can say, for me, it has kept me faithful to my husband and has given me enough self-esteem and courage to want to try new things with him to spice up our marriage.
     
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    good on ya', but we want DETAILS!! :D do i always have to scream out that we, especially ME WANTS DETAILS?!?! :lol
     
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    Read the stories I post here and know that most, if not all, have been inspired by some memorable sessions in chat or by a series of emails posted back and forth between my lover and myself. They are jam packed with details for you.
     
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    is it 'cause I is lazy prick?!
     
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    Isnt mentally cheating on your spouse just as bad?
     
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    I have to agree with that thought Crashdown.
     
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    I cannot see that they are comparable

    Cyber sex (or are we talking about mental sex) and physical sex....?

    Does anyone else have views on this

    Isnt it like saying I thought of killing someone today...

    Is that the same as the physical act of taking a life

    I dont think so!

    As far as the "cheating" goes, I wouldnt do that nowadays...I would tell my hubbie if I was gonna and he me...

    We tell each other everything......its far better that way..

    I lied in my first two marriages...they both ended in divorce..

    Somehow, I dont think this one will......:)
     
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    Doing something with someone else that your other half doesn't know about is a form of cheating no matter how it's done, IMO.
    Being on the phone, webcam or even writing your thoughts to someone means you're sharing something sexual with them, isn't that cheating in a way?
     
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    I am a little confused now..

    Crashdown said mentally cheating...does that mean thinking only

    Or are talking of the phone/cyber stuff ?
     
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    I have to disagre with Elvis and Crashdown. Re-read Her post
    You will find that it improved Her relationship with Her Hubby.
    And it implanted those ideas in her head that caused Her that improved
    relationship. So it must have done a world of good in Her case.
    Gals if cyber sex can improve your sex life with your Hubby.
    Go for it.:sf
     
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    OK, thinking is something we all have to do and I imagine many people have imagined having sex with their favourite film star while screwing their partner.

    My personal opinion is that if someone finds they need to do this too often, it's surely a sign of not being happy with the other half and could be classed as mentally cheating.
    One turn on for me is to remember a situation we've been in during sex, but it always includes Mrs E. She knows about everything I ever did before and since we met, including the real cheating since and I know about everything she ever did, so there's no real need to cheat anymore, not even mentally.

    This is a mess of a post, my apologies!
     
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    Its okay Elvis

    I find it interesting

    Can I ask you something?

    Is it okay for your wife to go with other guys....as long as you know about it....is it the "lieing" which makes it bad?

    Or the fact that one of you is with someone else...

    Big will you comment on this too....if you dont mind...

    I am very curious....as usual...:)
     
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    mhm, altough not being asked..

    if i was truely in love with one woman, i'd be probably think about other woman too.. but fucking would only be with the one... somehow!

    but dreaming should always be allowed, or am i wrong with that?!
     
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    I dont know anyone who doesnt fantasize about other people

    Whether it be Johnny Depp *cough cough* or the guy next door...

    Isnt that normal.....or am I weird.....????

    My hubbie tells me I need two men....I havent physically gone with another but I have fantasized about other men....?

    I am a very passionate woman....isnt it healthy to be this way?
     
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    I didn't come here to be judged, and frankly I don't care what you think of me. I'm just here to share my experiences, open my mind, and maybe learn a thing or two along the way.

    It ain't nothing but a thing. ;)
     
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    Who is judging you?

    I dont see anyone doing that?

    I am not.....for sure.....I dont think others are either CL

    Really I dont :(
     
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    Please forgive me, but I feel backed into a corner where people are saying I am cheating on my husband when I feel that I am not. We have been together for over 11 years, and I have never even made eye contact with another man during that time. I am NOT a cheater, period.
     
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    I don't judge anyone for doing it but I know of two marriages that broke up because of it .Some people may do it and have good come from it,but it can end up in disaster.I could never do it.Some people say its just words but I can't believe that.
     
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    I used to say I could never do things too....

    A long time ago....

    But things change....never say never hey

    We never know what is around the corner...

    Lovely pic barbie...very sweet :)
     
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    I know people should never say never.You are right ,you never know.

    And thanks.I would give you a smile if I had some.LOL
     
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