I would never have thought of cybering anyone up until last June, when a guy I had been kind of flirting with, out of the blue, sent me the most erotic story I had even seen. It got me so hot, that I was floored. Being the competitive person that I am, I wrote back something just as hot. I was at a point in my marriage where I was so frustrated and disgusted with my hubby that I was seriously considering cheating on him. I just had an incredible itch that he wasn't even going close to scratching and he turned me off more than on. I am not putting all the blame on him, it was a 2 way street. Anywho, through all of my interactions with my cyber lover, I was getting some sexual relief and also was having a lot of really steamy ideas planted in my head by him. In turn, my need to outdo him, made me think of some sexual situations that I had never tried before, but were always at the back of my head. I took some of those ideas and applied them to my real life and the sex got a lot better for hubby and I. I am not saying it is for everybody, but I can say, for me, it has kept me faithful to my husband and has given me enough self-esteem and courage to want to try new things with him to spice up our marriage.