Why does it turn me on to imagine my wife being fucked by other guys?

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  1. mkarter

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    Okay.. Been strugglng with this. Its starting to become a extreme turn on to imagine watching my wife fucking another guy right in front of me... Not just fucking but being a complete slut and enjoying it with the other guy... Shes really turned on by the idea but that only raises more questions... I know i love my wife but how could i get off thinking about that.? Am i some kind of perv? And how could she love me if she wants to fuck these other guys? I really need advice..
     
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    Use the search engine. Plenty of discussion about that on here.
    Or google hotwife or cuckold. You'll find you have lots of company.
     
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    I fanatasize about my wife being fucked bt two guys when I maturbate. Major turn on. Same thing, her being a total slut and loving it. But I have never and will never tell her that or let that happen. Some fantasies are better keep as fantasy. I think if it happened I would never feel the same way about her. And I am a raging jealous kind of guy.
    I know it contadicting,but its fantasy
     
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    Be very careful what you wish for and be very sure of your own self confidence, in your feelings, your 'equipment' and your 'performance'.

    A friend of mine had the same turn-on and asked if I'd be willing to 'oblige'.
    He had discussed it with his wife and she had been in complete agreement. What he didn't know was that we'd already done it, very enjoyably and satisfyingly, a few times.
    I am, without boasting, large - 8 1/4" long x 6 1/2" and can 'last', where-as she'd told me he is in the small average range and doesn't.
    She later told me that he was very disconcerted when he saw my size, almost to the point of calling it off and was surprised she hadn't been the same.
    She also told me that he was shocked and even more upset when he saw how eager she was for it, how easily she 'took' it and how she enjoyed it.


    He got his wish but he also according to her needed a lot of re-assurance afterwards.

    A woman can still emotionally love a man but from frustration, marital boredom, curiosity, thinking she's no longer attractive to other men, want to be fucked by another man/men - to fulfil any/all of these things.
     
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    I share the same Pervy turn on. Around the holidays I asked my wife to show my friend and I her Santa outfit. A little red skirt , white top and heels.
    She sat on his lap and I felt total electric excitement like when I was a teenager!
    We ended up taking turns with her a few drinks later. She's petite and incredibly hot. I fucking loved watching her with another guy. If you love each other and if your a self confident dude I recommend it.
    I'm straight and have no interest in dudes but something about watching and joining in is amazing.
     
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    I have been asked to have sex with wives while their husbands either looked, or planned to play after the wife and I finished having sex. In all cases it was the husband's fantasy but the wife was more than willing (except for one where I had to talk the wife into going through with it, but when she did she was quite good). In all cases the man had to be well-hung.

    My take is that this fantasy proves to a man that his wife is sexy enough to seduce and sexually satisfy another man. It also proves to a wife that SHE is sexy enough to seduce and sexually satisfy another man. So the next time they have sex he's fantasising that she's attractive and sexy and hot, and she's satisfied that she's attractive and sexy and hot.

    It's only a one-off and when we're finished I go home and they're still a happy couple, and it may well ratchet up their sex lives for quite a while.

    This fantasy does seem to work when both are in the same space, but the risk is that the wife and the other guy may have great sex but the husband may have problems having sex at all. Having sex in front of another man can cause nerves and erection problems. With a few of my couples this has been a problem for the husbands, and they ended up hating the threesome. With a few of my couples the husband was quite fine and all three of us had a good time.
     
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    Wow, times ive placed my fantasy regarding this topic.......I had asked my wife what she thought about having a threesome, ooooh, she wasnt so forthcoming about the idea and to be honest with you, thinking about it now, its a fantasy of mine and will always be......For a start, I mentioned this once with my wife then she spoke to me about it saying she just could not understand why I would want her to be with another man, and then to add to it me watching.....Anyway no more said about that between us........I never pressured my wife, and never will, If she wants to do it, then that because she wants too and i would back her, but...............do not and never persist to her you want it, cause it will backfire I reckon....................its an annoying fantasy my friend.........
     
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    I thiink of this too. old g/f had 3 way with me and another guy, was so hot seeing her getting fucked by him and seeing him suck him as I did her.
     
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    Yes. You ARE a perv. You are the only person in the ENTIRE FUCKING WORLD that thinks this.

    No but really. Theres this new thing called Google. And it gives you answers when you type a question into the box. CRAZY, RIGHT?

    Don't be an idiot and google this before posting.

    Just so you know, plenty of guys think that.
     
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    He could Google it.....or he could post his question here. Really, it's no big deal.

    And to the OP: (though the guy hasn't posted anything for a while), I personally have never thought like this, but looks like it's pretty common. For most people it's probably best to keep it in fantasy land.
     
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    If we all turned to Google rather than pose a question here, there would be nothing worth discussing and and the forum would close down.
     
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    that was my first thought too...but then i re read it , and she did say "google it BEFORE posting" not instead of posting....which kinda makes some sense to gather as much info as possible to help present a good well worded question.... i think?
     
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    It is a fantasy that I too, have entertained at times. The other man would not have to be "well-hung" in my fantasy, average would be fine. Perhaps it is the "taboo" aspects of it that make the concept so exciting. Watching them undress each other, seeing the look on her face when she saw that strange cock for the first time.....watching her timidly touch it with a trembling hand, then watching it get long and hard, just for her. Then....seeing her open her thighs and surrender herself to him, the swollen head of that strange and forbidden penis pressing against her eager pussy lips....then suddenly parting them and disappearing deep inside! Knowing that it will not be coming back out of her until after it spurts its forbidden seed deep into my sweet wife's belly. Yes....it would have to be bareback in my fantasy! Watching her arch her body to meet his thrusts and take him deeper, hearing her moans as her orgasm cums....and cums, then seeing his ass-cheeks suddenly tighten and his body stiffen, as he drives deep into her and holds himself motionless.....pumping her full of his strange semen. It's a HOT fantasy, but alas....my wife will not even discuss it, so a fantasy it shall remain.
     
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    I personally ignore those who start out by saying don't be an idiot or that's stupid etc.. These forums are to help and share, not to bash others thoughts and ideas.. Just had to throw that out there.. That thought is pretty common as a fantasy and like many fantasies they are more enjoyable as a fantasy because the thoughts are relatively guilt free.. If you were to ever to consider allowing her to experience sex with other men while you watch or any variance therein, you want to have no reservations or hesitations or underlying jealousies cause it could easily destroy your relationship.. Everyone is different.. My neighbors are swingers, others I know get jealous of their wives sex toys, I want to have a 3some MFM but only under the right circumstances because I value our relationship and its safety.. In your situation at least for a long time until you could accept that your SO would potentially enjoy it because that would be the whole point of the action.. It probably needs to remain a fantasy..
     
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    My husband has a theory on this. He calls my own desire for many guys "my wolf".
    We are essentially 'pack' animals just like the wolf and as such we also share a pack mentality to a degree. How much so, just like everything else, varies from person to person.

    As you can see here it is not common practice to enact this, but we are far from alone in the desire.

    Like many people say here (and same will all new dangers), you should tread carefully and gently explore you desires if they persist. We have all heard too many horror stories. But take things slow and give yourself time and confidence and it can be enjoyable.
     
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    Many men live this and love this, so no you are not a perv.
     
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    I think it goes along the same lines as... why does it turn me on to watch porn? It seems to be the same idea, watching someone really hot get fucked by random strangers, and seeing them turn into a major slut. Except for it's even better because you care for that person.
    I am not at all into cheating, and am a very loyal person, but I can still understand that attraction - because it is hot!

    I just love watching... and when im fucking my own partner, i can't see the penetration or anything that's going on. So I do find myself imagining him with someone else because of that. Imagining his dick in some random girls ass and so on.

    I don't think I could ever do it personally unless I had utmost trust that my partner would not betray me, but as long as both him and I knew that it was just for fun, and no strings attached, it would be harmless. I'm sure he wouldn't agree to it upfront, but i knew if I someday really wanted to... he would. He is pretty open to fulfilling my sexual needs.

    I would imagine it's the same thing as accepting that your partner masturbates or watches porn, the same idea. That if you look at it along the lines of, they are simply getting a sexual release from it, and it's not any form of emotional attachment, there is no big deal to it. And personally, I love the fact that my partner masturbates and watches porn, even just thinking about him doing it when im not around watching him do it, is super hot.

    I get a rush thinking of him as if he were just some random douche bag kind of guy, when he's really not. I know him well enough to know he's pretty sensitive. But even getting a rush out of thinking of him as just a human with sexual desires. Ha! We all are after all, and there really is no problem with letting loose and experimenting with that and having some fun.
     
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    Yes. It would help to pinpoint the information ACTUALLY NEEDED, and to help provide better answers.
     
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    I'm glad that there are many couples who take this desire into real life. I have been satisfying wives, mainly with their husband/boy friend watching for some of the time, regularly since I was a teenager. It is my main extracurricular sexual activity... through last weekend, in fact. An experienced guy like me can be of great help to a marriage, and to a wife's happiness. For me, it is all about the woman's pleasure and her satisfaction -- but I have also come understand the needs of the husband, which can be very strong, and also complicated. Send me a message if you want to know more about this kind of arrangement, why it happens, how it feels, and how it can work to everyone's benefit. I'm happy to answer any questions.
     
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    You're not along I have this fantasy as well. My wife is a white woman but is built like a black woman and nice and curvy but quite fit. She does get some attention from black men because of her body. I've had fantasies where she goes on vacation with some of her friends to a place like Jamaica or something and fucks some big cock black guy cheating on me. I'd never go for that in real life and neither would she but it's fun to fantasize :)
     
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