Why does it take so long for me to "get the hint"

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  1. tony george jr

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    After I married my two wives they told me they were going to dump me because I hadn't kissed them yet. I am of the school that a guy should respect a woman until there is a joint understanding that we are a couple. My question ,is this universal or just these two women ?
     
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    So you married them without ever kissing them?
     
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    Most people (male or female) like to feel that someone is really into them and if you're not giving the right signals, we'll assume you're not and move on.
     
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    Yep that's about right. It's a fine line though....If you go in too quick it can work against you also.
     
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    no I kissed the both before but it took a while. These days it not like that
     
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    I don't understand, they married you before kissing you and then divorced you because of it???????
     
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    Kissing is like foreplay to a relationship and can make or break one.
    It would be the first act of acceptable intimacy without actual commitment IMHO.
     
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    Sister wives? LOL. Sorry, that's what came to mind based on how your post started.

    So are you saying that while you were dating them it took you a long time to kiss them, and in the interim, each was thinking of dumping you because of it?
     
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    Just how old are you? I've hit the big 50 and as long as I've been dating, and that's 35 yrs, kissing was on the table from the time I picked her up and unless she was absolutely killer looking, sex was a must to have a second date. The total hotties got 3 to give it up... and they almost always did.
     
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    Most people aren't going to enter a relationship without knowing that both parties are attracted to one another.. If I'm out with a guy and he doesn't show interest, I'm going to move on and find someone that'll show interest.

    I agree that you should respect a person enough to not push yourself onto them, or coerce them in to things they don't want to do.. But unless you're super crazy religious, I've never known someone who would think going in for a kiss during or after a successful date would be disrespectful.
     
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    yes that it
     
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    I married them after I kissed them it just took me a while to get started.the first one divorced me to marry a perv. the last one died.
     
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    ok now that makes since. I had one woman tell me I was a great kisser but alas my pecker wouldn't get hard for her shit hell damn piss @!$#%
     
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    no not sister wives but I have thought about it and even went on a web site about it.