Why does it bother me?

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  1. queen cat

    queen cat New Member

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    Hiya,

    I tell my man , "its ok, I dont mind if you masterbate", ;)

    But when I catch a web site he`s been looking at or a taped show I go bonkers!

    Just today I came home to find he`d been Looking at pictures of the "Oh So HATED JORDAN".
    I couldn`t belive it, he knows i F****** hate her! :yell

    I really feel low, these pics and that he looks at are of all really slim, busty women. :ugh

    I feel like I can`t compare.

    Does anyone else feel this way about their partner doing things?

    any advice or words of wisdom?
     
  2. Collective

    Collective New Member

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    It's a picture/tv/internet...mellow out. All that's going to do is move you further apart. Try some fantasies with each other. That's what looking at pics are...give him the real thing and see if that skinny big boobed wonder can compete with that. :brow
    I can see you a very jealous person...you must get that under control. :)
     
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    yeh live out fantasies wit him.. and u night find it fun for u too, besides maby he's just tryin to get some ideas to bring into da bedroom
     
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    Just curious - do you masterbate without him? Maybe try it - see how you like it.

    It seems you might be a little jealous of "really slim, busty women". No reason to be jealous though. he is with you right? :)
     
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    You might find this essay by Eric S. Raymond helpful.
     
  6. queen cat

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    Well the essay has been helpful. thanks :)

    Yes im insecure, but recently my Fiance and I have talked and resolved matters.

    The reason I was so upset is that we hadn`t been together for a month or so before the "incident". When I made an advance to him, he rejected me and went all moody like he hated me, then the "incident" :ugh

    He`d promise clompletely off his own back about 9 months ago that he disliked porn on the pc, and that he didn`t want to get stuck in the "Habit"

    So catching this happening more than once after annoyed me!! :mad

    But I was wrong to lie to him and myself that I was o.k with it all, and have addmitted I was wrong to lie to him. :(

    Reason I was angry in all, was He`s got me now ( he was a virgin before me), He should be with me MORE- instead of these porn pics.

    Plus im paraniod he wants to "spread his seed" cause he`s only been with me.

    Im insecure cause of past relationships. :uhh:

    It felt like he was having affairs with these "imaginary" women, and I hated the thought of him thinking of "Being" with them. :eek

    We`d both been working all the time, not spending enough time together.
    But now we`re gona work on our relationship, try to make us both less insecure. :p

    Oh yeah, answer to your question: I used to, but I started to really lothe myself.
    I only want my fiance, and the only pleasure I want is with him. ;) :lol
     
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    virgo_bytchXXX New Member

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    ah masterbation. lol. nice! .. I love watchn my bf masterbate, i get extremley turned on by that. Tha onli thing that i dun really like is, when he looks a porn or any other kind of sexual thing/person besides me(unless ur 2gether). i duno i jus feel for sum reason tha its degrading to ur bf/gf. in my mind if he or she had to do tha then they arent getn tha rite pleasure form ur partner. So if he looks at tha stuff n wants u to b exactly like tha girl or do exactly wut she does/wears, i feel like im being judged accordingly to those girls. and i dun feel tha is rite. please correct me if im wrong.
     
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    For the masterbation topic, I love watching her rub or clit, play with it and run over vibrator over it. What would really get me going is watching her stick it all the way in while either laying down, on her side, or with her ass stickin up in the air either with a thong/gstring slid to the side or nothing on at all. OMFG that would be some hot shit!

    As for the porno thing, I would never want her to wear or act or think that I would want her to be like that. When I buy her clothes, I buy her clothes that I think are the perfect and right size and if it looks good on her. I know she likes to see me wearing clothes that she thinks makes me look hot, and I like her wearing clothes like that too. Lately I been noticing guys starin at her left and right and I think shes seen girls lookin at me when I'm on the road or walkin with her.

    But, guys and girls in the porno business are either single, trashy, or just plain out sluts doing anything for money. The way I see it, if you want money bad enough then do something to make it but don't fuck a guy just for a quick 20 bucks. That's really degrading. That's like saying, I don't have 5 dollars to my name, I don't get paid for another week, I'm starving and at McDonalds. You aren't going to give the manager some head or fuck him in the back room for a burger are you? No, unless you are a straight up slut or a town hoe.
     
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    Sounds like its right on target. Lighten up and give him the reall thing!
     
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    OK HERE IS MY 2 CENTS ON THIS SUBJECT...I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS QUEEN...MY HUBBIE WAS MASTERBATING TO PICS ON THE WEB EVERYDAY AND NOT MAKING LOVE TO ME WHEN I ASKED HIM ABOUT IT HE SAID HE DID OUT OF HABIT WHILE LOOKING AT THESE PICS..I TOLD HIM IT MADE ME FEEL UNWANTED IN A SEXUAL WAY AND HE SAID THAT HE WOULDN'T DO IT ANYMORE....BUT GUESS WHAT HE DIDN'T STOP DOING IT HE JUST HID IT BETTER!!!!
     
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    it sounds like because you are the first and last, before a big commitment, that He is just starting to explore possibilities and other things that he may have not yet experienced on his own. I'm still a virgin and I am 21 years old. I am in no hurry to get married. I wouldn' marry anyone I gave my virginity to. Atleast I wouldn't rush into it. Did you rush it? That could be bad if you did.

    You need to give him some leverage in the bedroom. As we have been pointing out. Ask him about his fantasies. Play them out. Wear the SOB out to the point he can't stand. Then you and him may have a better idea of what is going on, and you won't feel jealous.
     
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    If we do it 2 or 3 times a week I have no great desire to masturbate. When we go a week or more I get a little unpredictable, two weeks and all bets are off.
     
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    This is his second marriage..I have tried to talk to him about fantasies and what turns him on the most but all he tells me is " I don't really have any fantasies and I am not really sure what will turn me on it changes day by day"...MEN go figure...(no offense to any or all men on here)
     
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    I don't have a boyfriend right now but when I did I use to get upset a bit too.I think a lot of girls think that way and its perfectly normal to feel we dont measure up cause I mean come on. Look at the porn stars. So don't put yourself down!!! He has YOU to fuck. He cannot fuck those porn stars on the screen. Don't fret queen cat :)
     
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