Why is it that men feel so much pressure to perform sexually?! That if a woman doesn't orgasm then they have somehow failed and therefore they feel guilty? Women don't seem to feel the same pressure or at least I don't. I enjoy being close. Orgasms are very nice but they are not all there is. All pressure does it make it harder to men to get excited which leads to sexual frustration. Sex is not a sporting event where one is marked on performance! Just relax and enjoy it!