why do I feel embarrassed after masterbating to porn?

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  1. Gr8SxLfe

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    I'm in a relationship, and I often masterbate in secret to lesbian porn, and afterwords feel embarrassed for it. Now my boyfriend doesn't know, I'm afraid to tell him because he already wants me to have sex with a girl, and I'm just not into that. I think if I tell him that he will think its okay to keep pressing the issue, or that he will want to watch porn while we're having sex, and I don't want that either.
    I'm not gay, I've never been with a woman, and I never have fantasies about being with a woman, I just like he way a pussy looks, and enjoy seeing titties sucked on.
    Is there anyway to get over the selfconsciousness of it?
     
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    I'm no expert, but if you get off by looking at pussy, then you just might like pussy in a sexual way *shrug*

    As for getting over it, I'd say learning to not give a fuck is your best ally
     
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    Tell him so you don't feel embarrassed but also tell him about your boundaries. And be firm. You don't want to do something then tell him to back off the issue.
     
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    Perhaps you like lesbian porn because when you masturbate, it's something personal for just you. Thus why you choose material that doesn't have a man, cause you can identify more with the sexuality of women alone. Just my thought on the why. As for becoming more comfortable with it, if it's like how I said, keep it to yourself and enjoy. You don't need to worry about being caught or judged, just accept that it's something you like to experience for yourself in private. Enjoy it, too. :)
     
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    I do the same sometimes, so I agree about the not fantasising about being with a woman. I probably is just the fact that it is more personal for you like EarthboundEnigma said so I wouldn't worry too much.

    As for telling the boyfriend, it's up to you whether you want to. My boyfriend and I don't discuss it and I know that he watched porn too. But it's definitely no reason for him to pester you about having sex with a woman. Some people see that as cheating, even if the other person is the same sex. Is that something that's stopping you maybe?
     
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    Definately. I see being with anyone, or anything cheating. I don't care if I found him in bed with kermit the frog, I would still call him a cheater!
    To be honest I can't say that I'm totally against the idea of being with a woman, I just don't want to do that with someone I'm involved with. I would do it if I were single.