[Ask a Girl] Why could a girl be scared of having sex for the first time?

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  1. mac18

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    I've been really patient with my girlfriend for a year. We just now started doing sexual things together. Why could she be scared?
     
  2. heelfetish

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    Accidental pregnancy could be at the top of the list. Perhaps she is unsure if she wants to lose her virginity. Perhaps she's concerned about STDs/STIs. Perhaps she isn't certain you are the 'one'. There are a million reasons why someone would be hesitant, especially at your age. Now it's up to you... Do you love her and cherish your relationship enough to continue to wait until SHE is ready, without pressuring her, or is sex more important? If it's the latter than it's probably best to break it off and find someone who is ready.
     
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    Ok, let's get down to brass tacks here. When you're a virgin, you have no idea what to expect. Some say it hurts, other say it doesn't. Also, some virgins really don't know what they like or dislike sexually, so it's definitely like going into a cave without a flashlight; you've got to feel your way around. That idea, of having to learn things like that about yourself from scratch is pretty intimidating. Also, getting a 6 inch hose rammed up your cooter is not the most romantic vision, especially if you think it's going to hurt-and most of the time it does. Plus, all of the reasons that Heely gave are plenty enough to be scared out of your gourd for going all the way for the first time. Be considerate of the lady. She needs her time to get comfortable. She won't be more comfortable with doing it with you if you're inpatient. So, continue with patience and just be loving. That's all you can do.