Why cheat?

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  1. HotForHoney

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    Can anyone explain it?
    What makes someone think it's ok?

    If you are unhappy, leave.
     
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    Because they dont care. Its a selfish thing to do to someone.
     
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    Everyone has there own reasons..and its not always because your unhappy either.

    I cheated because I felt as if it didnt matter, I didnt feel like I was worth her time and ive never been as happy as I was with her. I doubt I ever will be
     
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    I feel the same way, cheating is a big no, if you aren't happy or don't want to be with someone and you feel the need to cheat, then at least leave them first.
     
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    I wouldn't want to judge someone who cheated. Lives can get complicated...
     
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    Complicated? What about honesty?
     
  7. alwaystry

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    I have never cheated but I have been cheated on. I have had many chances to do it but declined the offers. Yes you should be honest and I do getit when someone stays with someone that they cheat on several times. I don't like it but understand a one time weakness during complicated times in life , things just happen sometimes....some arestronger than others, some care more thanothers.
     
  8. fairykiss

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    Being honest the whole time is far from simple
     
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    I cheated to satisfy my needs. I won't leave for many reasons. The top reasons are financially and I don't want my kids to go through the, It's Mom's turn to come for Thanksgiving and Dad's for Christmas.
     
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    Do you have an open relationship with your wife? Does she know? Does she have her own relationships?
     
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    No open relationship and I don't know if she has her own. We don't have much of a relationship anymore. It's been about 12 years since we had much of a relationship.
     
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    i did cheat on my 1st wife but only after i told her i wanted a divorce because i caught her 6 times she wouldnt leave the house so i thought screw it i will act like im single lol she left shrtly there after sorry its my house i grew up there and im not leaving my house lol so im not shure if you would call that cheating i didnt hide anything . now my second wife a much diffrent story she is straight as an arrow atleast i think she is lmao
     
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    My first wife cheated on me, because she was unhappy with our relationship. I wasn't happy either, but I was in school, and hoped we'd get better after I was done. The sex was always good.

    I wish she'd been honest with me before she decided to go out on me. We'd still have divorced, but we might still be friends.
     
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