Who Instigates?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Squint, Sep 3, 2008.

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Who generally instigates Sex?

Poll closed Nov 2, 2008.
  1. Me always

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    15.4%
  2. Me most of the time

    17 vote(s)
    65.4%
  3. Partner most of the time

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    19.2%
  4. Partner always

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  1. Squint

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    If its not you, how often do you decline?

    Sex?

    Going down on your partner?

    Your partner going down on you?
     
  2. FlirtyChick

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    We both instigate.

    I NEVER say no.

    I almost always go down on him, and he almost always goes down on me......
     
  3. Dreama

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    We both do, and I have never declined.
     
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    Yay! Another one! I love you more every day.... (off topic):eyes
     
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    Wow! well, I usually initiate. I like to be in control usually.
     
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    usually me - he never says no but sometimes I have to give him some "encouragement"
     
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    :D Likewise, FC!!
     
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    I usually instigate i think. But it depends on the girl also and the situation and such. I have def had the girl instigate many times. Even grabbing me up off the couch and rushing me into the bedroom and throwing ME onto the bed. (i kind of like to tease a lot first at times)

    But idk. Sometimes i wonder if the girl really wants to do it. I mean as many of you had said you dont decline. But i feel sometimes that i "instigate" too much and she just never declines out of just being nice. Though i dont know if she really wants to. And i dont want to make it seem as though i just want her for sex. lol (make sense?)
     
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    She usually instigates cause I'm pretty much always in the mood. We go down on each other most of the time and I get her off 2 or 3 times orally cause she doesn't get off thru penetration. After she gets off we either bang or she finishes me off with a bj depending on our moods.:shrug
     
  10. HardRocker

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    We both initiate sex. There wasn't a button to select that answer.
     
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    I do most of the time!
     
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    I would be the instagater, but my ex is also very much one.
     
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    me majority of the time unless he beats me to it LOL

    We perform oral on each other before during and after (for me to finish) hands and mouths all over the place with us :brow
     
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    Im mostly the instigator and Ive never turned her down when shes been the aggressor.
    I always go down on her, cant keep me outta there on her....
    She goes down on me about 30% of the time.
     
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    I nearly always do… She has never declined.

    It concerns me always being the instigator, but I am crazy about her. Can’t help but be attracted to her. Typically starts with me touching her, and she often requests shoulder/neck massages which I never decline. I find touching her very sensual. I typicaly take some liberties with her upper chest and neck. A little hot tub time, and I am primed.

    I like to go down on her because she always gets off and I enjoy that. She often enjoys if not prefurs shall I say digital (finger) stimulation also.

    I often request some head time, she is getting very good at taking me deep and the feeling just drives me wild. She never declines it appears to always get her turned on.
     
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    I would have chosen "50/50" had that been an option.
     
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    I usually instigate it and if he is not in the mood he tells me he is tired and to have a play. I used to ask for it every nite, but knock backs are a bitch so we only have sex a few times a week now.
     
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    Awww how sad babe :mad

    I'd say the girl usually starts it off and I NEVER knock it back.
     
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    It is sad, but I am way more sexual than he is and I am used to it. He works massively long hours so I don't have to work and I can take care of our daughter so when he tells me he is tired, he is tired..... I just give him a massage or a bj so he can have a good nites sleep.

    The good thing about me not instigating it as much means that he actually gets a chance to instigate now lol
     
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    Well you can instigate on me ANYTIME!!