Who initiates - you or your wife/husband

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  1. Retro101

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    Hey married couples - looking for some insight on "who initiates the sex".

    Been with my wife for 15 years - we're both fit and we have sex on a regular basis (at least I think it's regular, 4-5 times a week).

    I seem to be hornier than her and as such, I'm the one initiating 90% of the time - is this the same with your relationship? Stereotypes tend to support this - just looking for some perspective.

    thanks in advance
     
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    Certainly.

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  3. Barbwire

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    I intiate 90% of the time.
     
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    Me..and I feel if I didn;t we would never have sex..infact, I am going to try something. I am going to let her initiate it this time and let her walk in my shoes..nice idea..lol
     
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    I initiate aboot 80% of the time.
     
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    Oh, I'd say it's about 70/30..he initiates it the most.
     
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    I initiate about 75% of the time.....my wife usually the other times....my percent used to be more so shes getting better with being a "take charge gal".
     
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    Thats because you stay horny
    90% of the time CL.

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    50/50

    we are always grabbing each other.
     
  10. djmercer1

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    her most of the time, maybe 80%.
     
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    This one is interesting for me....my husband initiates almost always because he knows that I would love sex every day. My sex drive is much much higher than his. I will tell him randomly throughout the day that I want it. I am usually in bed before him and as long as he isn't too tired then as soon as he hits the bedroom he initiates it.
     
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    I am sooo jealous..lol
     
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    I initiate about 60% of the time, but then again, i'm not married yet :p
     
  14. Puss_in_boots

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    Usually, it's around 50/50.
     
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    :eek You slut! :p (just kidding)
     
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    Me about 75% of the time her about 25% she is geting better.
     
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    Hehe...you know it. :) It used to be 100% me initiating until my SO gained enough confidence to be able to initiate it himself.
     
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    You know yet again Im afraid I'm going to sound a bit odd. Rather than initiate sex I think my hubby and I have kind of found a routine. eg every night my hubby gets ready for bed then I jump we have sex then I have a shower and get ready for bed, or after he's packed when he has to go away on business,(suitcases closing = time for sex) at the weekends we'll always go to bed mid afternoon and have sex then laze around in bed for an hour or so watching tv.

    One evening a week I go for a run while my hubby is at home,this is the only time my working out coincides with him being around. I realised shortly after meeting him that he finds me being sweaty a turn on so I got used to him always jumping me at the end of a workout. Sex after working out never actually appealling to me but since It was the only time he ever initiated sex at the beginning of our relationship I felt it would be mean to turn him down.

    Anyway just to show how powerful a routine can be a few months ago I got in from my run a little later than normal and found he had gone back to work. and i just went mad storming up and down the house when I reached him on his mobile I just said i had gotten back from my run and where was he. I didn't actually use the words gagging for a shag and gave him 10 minutes to get home. (i should probably point out that it was me that had fucked his schedule up) and up to that point I would still have said I didn't really fancy sex after working out and was just doing it for my husband.

    Anyway back to the original post neither of us really initiate sex its kind of just time for sex.
     
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    We mostly have times for sex like above, but the other times (which aren't often) I initiate.
     
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    About 50/50 here.