Who does the work during oral sex?

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  1. ply

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    Back when we used to actually have oral sex she would start off laying beside me sucking and licking and gradually progress to going deep.

    It always seemed the more she sucked the hornier she got.

    After she reached a certain point she would roll over on her back, pull me on top of her I, usually with both hands behind her head would begin thrusting. Fucking her face. She was always in control and had totally mastered turning her head just and popping me out if she needed to breath.

    She was obviously into it because she came every time. Often more than once.

    Does anybody else like this?
     
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    I never really liked that image "fucking her face" but I think that's because when I was young I had a female boss who wasn't exactly a people person. One of my co-workers would say "I want to fuck her face" in such a hostile way yhat it scared me. My wife is good enough that i don't need to thrust much so oral sex is on my back or side by side for 69. sometimes i get on top for 69 but not for thrusting.
     
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    for me giving head is definitely a turn on. i totally get why the more she sucked the hornier it made her, because usually i'm the same way too. being on my back would make me a lil nervous though, i'd much rather do it on top or on my knees
     
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    My wife likes for me to lay back and she does all the work, and she really gets into it.
     
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    We share the "responsibility" - sometimes she'll do the work, sometimes I will. It just depends what strikes our fancy at the time.
     
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    The boyfriend gets very involved in it, but I adjust my hips and move and do other things to help make it just right. Really though, he does most of the work.

    Oh, that kind of oral sex. I do most of the work, and I even do about half the work when he's fucking my mouth aggressively.

    But I have a question: If she's on her back and her head is "down there," and you're holding her head, that means your arms are down under you. How do you have the leverage to hold yourself up? Is your upper body down on the bed?
     
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    Sometimes on the bed, sometimes on top of her, sometimes just my head touching.

    It's always a work in progress and depends on whether we are in 69 position or not.

    It's about 60% - not 69.
     
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    The more he moans the more turned on I get!

    I would say when giving a blow job it is mainly myself doing the work.. I forget there is one position that I get a really sore neck/jaw if done for too long a period of time.

    Haven't done a lot of the "getting my face fucked"
     
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    I think my favorite position is lying on my back with her off to the side lying on her side facing my cock, her head lying on my stomach. I ts nice and relaxed, I can run my fingers through her hair and her hands are free to add to the sensations. I can also finger her from behind. If she wants she can easily get on her knees and shift over to straddle my face for 69.
     
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    We often start like that. With both of us fingering her. Sometimes using a vibe &/or a dildo.
     
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    When I am receiving a blow job I just like to take a deep breath, lie back and enjoy the wonderful sensations in the head of my penis as my partner runs her lips and tongue all over it. I like my partner to run her tongue all over the head and round the rim and take the head in her mouth and suck on it, it pulses and tingles with pleasure.

    When doing 69 I usually go on top. Because my penis points straight up along my body and is quite rigid when erect it is difficult for my partner to put all of it in her mouth in that position. She can lick and kiss the head of my penis without taking it all in her mouth, I enjoy that. I plant sweet kisses on her clit and vagina and run my tongue all over her clit, suck her clit and bring her to orgasm.
     
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    During sex, I always love oral sex, sucking, licjing and mouth fucking. Especially 69 angle and doggy style I prefer most. 69 angle make me most horny and get haven satisfaction. Even when I use vibrator, I like mouth fucking.
     
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    Beside me.
     
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    I don't get BJs much and feel I'm missing out after reading this. My wife just doesn't like doing it. Yes, I've talked to her about it.

    I, on the other hand, LOVE eating her out! It turns me on like no other to see her squirming around and moaning. I like pussy and I can't eat enough of it! So me, I do almost all of the work.
     
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    That is unfortunate. I would like to say that you aren't missing out on much, but your body, more-than-likely, responds to the stimuli differently than mine does.


    A lot of females view fellatio differently. Much like manual stimulation, it's used as a means of arousal, fore play, but coitus is where they would rather a male climax. Other females don't mind the spitting/swallowing routine. I understand that seminal fluid isn't always the most pleasant of substances to ingest, but neither are vaginal secretions. While one is closer to a base, the other is more acidic. What always helps is relating how much she enjoys it with how much you might enjoy it. Also, keep in mind that while you LOVE this act, and she loves having it performed on her- not all women request for it to occur. Ergo, if you stopped, she may be just as happy with coitus. If that is the case, you may have a tougher time convincing her, if that is even your end.


    There also may be a stigmatization ascribed to the act of "giving head". Performing cunnilingus is usually, and this may be a stretch, revered as more Romantic an action than fellatio. Unfortunately, in this digital age, we are all bombarded with the opportunity to view free pornography. There is seldom a time where the female appears dignified. It's no stretch to say that a plethora of males watch porn. Knowing this, a female may, even in the recess of her mind, feel some what degraded while performing this act. For a lot of females, oral sex is more personal than vaginal sex.

    My earlier response was a wee bit ambiguous. I do most of the work in that department as she responds better to oral and vaginal stimulation while I respond best to manual and vaginal stimulation. It works out well in this regard.
     
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    Not in an abusive way but the idea of holding her head and "fuck her mouth" is a turn on, and to watch herwhile on my back, let her be in control in reality. I say not abusive, however if she wants deep, fast, hard, then I let her have what she likes and literally do it.