[Ask a Girl] Whips, Chains, and Strap-ons, Oh My!

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  1. CaliMike

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    Would you ever consider using one (or more) of the above on your partner?
     
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    Hell to the fucking yes.
     
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    To which one(s)?
     
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    All of the above, as I own, all of the above.

    I have and do use every single one, plus ropes and gags and other instruments of kinky fun on my hubby (and he uses them on me) at every chance we get.
     
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    Sweet! That's awesome! :D
     
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    Lol, I wouldn't quite call it "sweet" ;)

    In all honesty though, it seriously adds some amazing aspects to otherwise boring sex. A simple love making session can be made so much more sensual with a blindfold, some soft rope and some medical supplies. It makes it extremely exciting and painfully amazing.
     
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    Did you meet your husband somewhere random, or did you meet in the BDSM scene?
     
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    We met though an ex of mine. Both of us were equally kinky, but didn't find out until the 3rd or 4th time we had sex when I accidentally knocked over the box of kinky things he had. That sparked some discussion and then we started experimenting together.

    We're both active with BDSM things now.
     
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    I would use whips softly though not till I saw blood. I would use a strap on but only if he enjoyed the feeling and wanted it to be done. I'm sure the pressure against my pussy would be enjoyable with every thrust. and I would in a situation with a female if one ever had to arise.

    I go crazy if I am restrained though... I scream/beg to be undone because every sensation from every touch lick is 4x as intense as it would normally be.

    @ Mittimer what else do you use chains for other than restraining?
     
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    Generally just restraint, suspension and used to spank with.
     
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    Part of what makes it appealing to me in my head is the domination aspect of it. I don't know if I would be into it if the qualifier 'only if you enjoy it' were added. That would cancel out the domination aspect psychologically I think.
     
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    Thanks Mitt :) I might have to watch some BDSM videos to check it all out.
     
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    I use whip & rope on my partner and sometime make him blindfold and use these. I love see him helpless & forced while servicing me. I Don't like to use strap-on and haven't used it anytime. Also, I don't like my partner using these on me.
     
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    Interesting. Yeah I lean more to the submissive side of the spectrum. I like to be dominated.
     
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    I see. You like to be held down by your partner and fucked or actually tied down?
     
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    You sound like a mean bitch! I likey! :D
     
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    Being tied down I've lasted all 10 minutes before I was threatening to do do mean things if I wasn't untied.. too sensitive LOL

    But yes I like being held down and being roughed up a little. (Not all the time though)
     
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    Fun, fun! :)
     
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    Its my personal preference. As per my philosophy, if I get satisfied by having my orgasm, and my partner gets satisfied by giving me orgasm, then what's wrong? No one is mean here. Both of the choices matches....So, it is a win win situation.

    I get satisfied to see that my partner getting choked and still servicing me to orgasm, he likes to get choked and feel pain (but continue to service me with his tongue) while I will be having my orgasm.

    I have some special comment on "mean bitch" (what you told me) in general. You will find porn sites like "fuck my skull" where males face fuck the females for their pleasure. But note the name of the site...Its not "mean boys" or something...Its like a girl is giving her mouth, such that the boy can face fuck it and have his orgasm on her mouth and face. But a similar site like "meanbitches.com" or "meanamazonbitches.com" where females face fucks the males and gets their orgasms, it tells females the "bitch" (the site name itself). It's unfair. Instead of that it can be femalepleasure.com or something like that. Anyway it's my thought & philosophy. :)

    But I am ok, if my male partner thinks me a mean bitch and get satisfied more within him by pleasuring a mean bitch. Because it's his thought and fantasy to service a mean bitch.:p
     
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    I have no desire to use these things on my husband, but have strong desire to have then used on me.
    My self exploration has made me realized that i would however like to be dominate in a blood play situation or urethral sounding. These are two fetishes that I wish to explore .