Which would you pick...

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Silverfox, Dec 29, 2013.

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Good Lover or Good Personality

  1. Good Lover

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  2. Good Personality

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  1. Silverfox

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    I don't think a poll has been done exactly like this one. But, here it is.

    I know this is an either/or question, and reality is we want both, but if you had to pick, which would it be? And why.






    I picked good personality because sexual technique can be taught.
     
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    I picked personality for the same reason. Sex should be learned between partners anyway.
     
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    I also picked personality, For the same reasons
     
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    I picked personality because I have to live with it 365 days a year. A lover is once a month. LOL
     
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    Same here because no matter how attractive or good in the cot if she isn't a nice personality I don't really want her.
    For me sex is about connecting so if I can't make that connection I really struggle with the physical.
    That may not have been so when I was younger but now am a little wiser and more experienced ;)
     
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    Why would anyone choose one over the other. She has to be very attractive, very fit, great personality, caring, share interests, AND be good in bed, or the couch, or kitchen table. If you plan on having a long term relationship or marriage, all must be present.
     
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    Why would anyone choose one over the other. She has to be very attractive, very fit, great personality, caring, share interests, AND be good in bed, or the couch, or kitchen table. If you plan on having a long term relationship or marriage, all must be present.
     
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    Simply because it is a choice that is demanded here, it is hypothetical in order to understand what is the most important element.
    Nobody in their right mind would do it otherwise!
     
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    Then what's the point of the question? It's like asking which I prefer, a Vauxhal or Citroen, neither of which is available in the US. While I do know a couple of guys that married extremely ugly women because they were supposedly great in bed and another that married an extremely unpleasant women for the same reason. The longest lasted 2 yrs.
     
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    backcheck64, the point of the question is to get a "gut" reaction. If you read the question,

    (I know this is an either/or question, and reality is we want both)

    I stated we would probably want both. Having said that, would it surprise you if I told you that on two other forums I'm on, in the US and in Europe, the vote tally is almost 50% for each. So, I asked the question because I wanted to know what the participants of THIS site had to say.

    Perhaps I should have made the question as a continuum, not an either or question. Maybe in two years, I'll try it again.
    And I didn't say anything about the length of the relationship, whether it was a one night stand or 50 years together. Perhaps another flaw in the wording and assumptions. Also, I didn't ask anything about physical looks.

    Does that explain the question?
     
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    What I'm saying is, why would anyone even consider one without the other. There's a reason for the divorce rate being so high and for those that don't get married, the number of truly crappy relationships. People actually take one over the other. I understood the question, the point is WHY? Picking one over the other is basically settling. When you settle, you're doomed to failure. So what's the point.
     
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    As I said, the point is to get some gut reaction data, and explanation. That's all.
     
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    i chose good personality....like others have said being a good lover can be taught, but also...how many of us have had the lover that rocked our worlds time and time again, but were a complete douchebag in general? **raises hand** lol... took u a while but u finally let go because it wasn't worth all the drama.
     
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    Personality is the driving force behind my attraction. As such- the love-making will ride the curtails of the afore mentioned facet.
     
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    Personality.
    There's more to a relationship than sex