Where is the parity?

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  1. Rose

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    Okay - just an observation....

    When women (whether long-time members, or newcomers) post revealing pictures, they are accepted with open arms. Encouragement flows abundantly, and all comments are sugar coated, with cheers for "More! More! More!"

    When a guy does the same thing, many times they are critiqued as under a microscope. Some of the critiquing goes beyond the pic - to actual character assasinations :ugh

    I have found that the Adult Multi Media section has been a way for those of us that are perhaps a bit self conscious about our nudity to go ahead and 'bare all'. It's a release that we have come to enjoy, knowing that since none of us are super models, we can just have a little exhibition-type fun.

    We understand the difference between men & women in all other aspects of these forums, being that women take their time and develop "relationships", whereas men just jump into the "act". Can we not extend this courtesy to the men who jump into the picture thread?

    ....again, it's just an observation....

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  2. Ryan

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    It's one thing for a member to join the forum, say hello, get to know some people and partipiate in some discussion, then post pictures... It's another to just jump right in first post and start posting pictures of themselves. Man or women this is quite annoying.

    The only reason why this has been happening is because I had to remove a setting that disallowed pictures/urls from being posted until 15 posts because it was causing an issue with another feature. I have instructed the other moderators to keep a look out and remove any posts that contain urls/pictures until a member has 15 posts. This goes for men and women. This is mainly due to a spam issue, but this also pertains to the AMM as well.

    Also, the fact that anyone can register to view/post in the AMM forum does not help. I have thought about and may put into place where you need to have an avatar to be able to view the AMM section. I would lower the requirements to have an avatar, but it may be a needed step.

    From my point of view this is not what I intended for :sf to be. The AMM section was supposed to be an added feature to the forums and not the focus. There are plenty of places for people to boost their ego or to look at porn, but I don't want the AMM to be used that way.

    I know there are other users who feel the same way.
     
  3. Puss_in_boots

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    I hear what you're saying, and I guess I (and other :sf members) were perhaps unaware that we were all participating in a double standard. One thing to keep in mind is we rarely get posts from female members who forgo an introductory thread and instead choose to dive straight into the adult forum with nude pictures. Perhaps that's why when it does happen it's always welcomed and appreciated by :sf members.

    However, we frequently (lately it seems, several times a day) receive "What do you think of my cock?" posts from male members. Often it's the one and only post they make. Perhaps we should be more inviting of these posts, but I confess myself growing a little weary of them. It would be nice if they would take the time to post an introductory thread, and tell us a little about themselves before posting close up pictures of their penises.

    However, that's merely my opinion on the matter.
     
  4. Darkesheart

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    Perhaps I was a bit harsh when I posted in a gentleman's pic thread last night and told him that it would be nice to see him introduce himself before showing of his private parts to one and all on board. Granted, we have the AMM and anyone who is a member can post their own pictures there if they want to, and they can also view and comment on other members photo threads. But in my personal opinion this board is about more than just the AMM section. I know that I enjoy coming here and being able to talk with and get to know others, their points of view, and even their own experiences with different things.

    Maybe I have been participating in some kind of double standard, I don't know. I do know that I don't post in ever man's or woman's thread that is posted in the AMM. But I do know that it is a put off to me to see people come to the forum, not even put up a thread saying hello, but instead just automatically putting up a thread in the AMM and saying "Here's my cock... or... Here's my half naked (or completely naked) body" by both men and women. I do admit that I have actually posted in some of those. Some good comments, and a few not so good. But honestly, when is enough enough? This isn't a porn site, and I seriously doubt that it was ever intended for it to be used as one (and no, I am not saying that this is what is happening).

    All I know is that personally it took quite a lot for me to post the pics that I have posted in the AMM. I have appreciated and loved the comments that I have gotten. Especially as it is a huge ego boost to me after a particularly nasty break up that I had this year. And for someone to come in and be able to go through there and look at pics, and just up and post naked pics of themselves and then never come back, well, frankly it feels like a violation of trust. And it feels to me like they were just wanting some porn site to possibly be a part of and when it wasn't what they wanted they just disappeared.

    These are just my observations, my thoughts, and my feelings. You can take them with a grain of salt if you would like. Because they are just that how I feel and view things. Noone persons point of view and feelings are always going to match another persons.
     
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    Well, most of what I wanted to say has already been said, I just want to add that I think there has been a noticable change in the board in the few months since I have been a member. With the addition of the personals section and all of the "look at my dick" threads, I feel this place has become a porn site. Yeah, it's still a great place to go to learn things, but it has also gotten seedier, IMHO.
     
  6. Rose

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    I find all these posts/suggestions reveal that something probably should be done to restrict to open-ended access Adult Multi-media . I know it used to be set up that way, and it did deter "One Hit Wonders" from filling up that forum with run-of -the mill cock pics. I tire of them, as well. - It also deterred people from just joining to gawk. I'm all for getting something set up like that again. I view/comment on one out of every twenty or so... probably dependent on my mood at the time.

    I simply noticed that we are far more generous with compliments toward the 'pussy' pics (regardless of how ugly), than the 'cock' pics. Until the change comes, it seems appropriate to be equally sincere and kind to both sexes. jmho

    ...Sometimes, it so damn hard being a Libra :lol
     
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    Well said, Rose. :tup
     
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    Most of the female pictures are discreet, tasteful and erotic, but erect cock pictures are a different thing entirely. I guess it is an extension of the endless 'am I big enough' threads. Unless you are really, really, really small, or you are trying to have a relationship with one of those rare women who won't accept anything less than eight-inches, you are big enough! And if you want us to see it, that's fine, but really a penis is a penis is a penis.
     
  9. Kronnie

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    I defenetly agree with that last staement Rose, being a Libra myself hehe..
    I cant complian , i have had some very nice comments on my pic thread...and i have enjoyed a lot of other members photo threads....both sexs...


    Well just on another comment....a penis is a penis.... but it is always best to post some other pictures of yourself first, but you could also say a virgina is a virgina is a virgina....or a pair of breasts is a pair of breasts...


    Its all down to how you post them...i never asked for comments on my penis pics...but i defenetly can not say that i did not enjoy the sweet comments i got on my picture thread, they made me feel a load better than i was . :)
     
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    I haven't seen any pussy or breast-only pics, but then I don't often go there. It is true, a pussy is a pussy. The best pictures are the ones genuinely posed: maybe they are a rarity or maybe not.

    Interesting about Librans, I have loved truly and madly and deeply two women in my life, and both Librans. And there were similarites in the personalities of these two women, and it was those aspects of their respective personalities that won me over.
     
  11. Kronnie

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    Yes Librans are very balanced in their ways, but can be submissive in others as well.
    I guess that is why i prefer a more dominant type of female
     
  12. sexaholic

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    Wow... What is with the astrology? This is the 20th time someone's had a conversation about the horoscope in my 'presence' in the past two days... First time online...

    Obviously, I can't buy astrology, it's so preposterous. Yet at the same time, I remember looking once that Geminis and Libras get along, both in a relationship and as friends. Well, not only is my SO a Libra, but 4 of whom I would call my closest friends also are. It's silly.
     
  13. Kronnie

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    Well i dont discount that it could be factual....i also like the chinese zodiac ..

    Im one of the lucky ones zodiac wise because i fall into two star signs ( from what i have been told ) because my birthday is on the 25th of september ( and libras start on the 24th)

    I am sure SexyScorp could tell me if i am right on that or not.
    from what i remember i am meant to be a virgo/libra