What's your definition of cheating?

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  1. Squeak

    Squeak New Member

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    Is it purely sexual? Going on "dates" with someone else? Going to strip clubs? Watching porn?

    My definition is anything that involves being secretive or deceptive with another person, whether it's going on a date, having sex, making out, etc.
     
  2. Barbwire

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    Yeah, that.
     
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    Anything beyond flirting would define it for most.
     
  4. heelfetish

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    Any physical contact beyond a hug.
     
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    It's really up to the couple. If they communicate the rules are whatever they decide. For some not even a hug. For others may be open to outside sexual contact as long as they communicate with each other. Again the big thing is the "C" word.
     
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    That is a good definition. If you make a commitment to openness and honesty in a relationship and you violate it you have "cheated" the other party
     
  7. LilBAM

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    As long as the trust is there between myself and a girl, then I don't think much is cheating. I think the more I trust a girl, the less things I'll consider cheating, and the less I trust a girl, the more things I'll consider cheating. It really is all about trust more than anything else.
     
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    In my opinion, in a healthy relationship there are a set of agreed upon boundaries. Going beyond those boundaries is what constitutes cheating. For example, if both agree to have an open sexual relationship, then sex with someone else is not cheating. So it is not so much the specific act, as much as it is the act in the context of the boundaries.
     
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    Flirting is ok.....friendly hug is ok....NO sex...NO grabbing/squeezing/rubbing private areas or tits.....NO ORAL......
     
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    it has to do with what the couples think.for me hug is ok,but no sex and no kissing and touching.
     
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    Now i don't think watching porn is cheating even if the wife doesn't know about it.The same applies that i don't believe my wife cheats if she sneakly gets the vibrator out if i'm downstairs watching football
     
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    ditto here
     
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    Hi Squeak,

    I define cheating as anything that happens outside of agreed boundaries for the relationship. This means it varies for each couple, there are no universal set of definitions nor are there any "tick boxes" regarding what is considered cheating.
     
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    Echo CL once again. Anything covert, secretive, hidden.