Whats the one thing you absolutely hate about your partner and want to change

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  1. Jolay

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    Hi everyone, Just wanted to know whats the one thing you hate about your partner and would like to change if you can?
     
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    How incredibly fucking loud he snores EVERY NIGHT.He sounds like a damned lawn mower
     
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    I wonder if you live next door to me. I heard our neighbur snoring ALL EFFING NIGHT.
     
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    ha,I don't know,but our neighbor upstairs also snores,so it's like synchronized some nights.If anyone wants to know why I'm a nightowl,that's why:D
    I wait until he leaves for work to get my zzzzz's
     
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    It's not so much an "I hate this" but a "I wish he could be better about it".
    I would really change my husbands confidence and ability to tell people "no". He's amazing at what he does, AMAZING, but he always second guesses himself. I wish I could just give him some of mine once in a while.

    Also, the inability to say "no". Since we've been together it's slowly starting to be easier for him to do so, but before no matter what it was (well unless it were illegal or what have you) he would go out of his way to do it, only because he didn't know how to say no.
     
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    Exactly.


    You see when you're with someone, especially long term, there shouldn't be anything you hate about them or that you would change. When you marry then and say those vows, you're accepting them for who they are, better or worse and all the flaws in between. To later say "I hate this about you, change it now" that's just...wrong.
     
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    thats where you should compromise, and not totally change the behavor but maybe find a middle ground
     
  8. Texas_Red

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    I would think those compromises should have been made before the vows. If you get married before you know your SO, then it was too soon.
     
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    That being said .. people can change. Someone who is stressed at work might become abusive or unaffectionate.. Gain weight become insecure.. less interested in things you enjoyed doing together.. See you hanging out with a new group of friends and get jealous which hadn't reared it's head before.. People can change it's sad but true.

    and what would I like to change about my partner?

    Well I don't have one... but my hand .. in which I wish it could be a bit faster when doing what it do.. ya feel me.
     
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    You make a valid point.

    Well, this doesn't help you, but I've been told a few times I'm good with my hand(s). Dunno if that speaks for speed though. ;)
     
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    people can change thats why i talked about compromiseing.

    lol im sure you dont need to change for a faster hand, you just need a guy like me
     
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    Well my forearm gets really sore when I try to go a little faster.. so I have to get off with a slow and hard motion.. and I need a demonstration so I can confirm this "I'm good with my hands" ;)

    I have just had a bit of a rough run lately.. so just taking my time you know :) thank you for the compliments x

    Right now I don't need any guy what I need is a more confident me :)

    But thank you for offering up your services *hugs*
     
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    Lack of libido :ugh
     
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    Well, I'm sure that could be arranged if either I happened to visit out there, or you found yourself stateside and in Texas. Show you what good forearm endurance is. ;)
     
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    Yep! :ugh
     
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    I can't think if anything I hate. A couple of small annoyances, her hang up with cleaniness. She's rediculously organized, if I have a path, I'm good, she actually sees dust and pet hair... She could relax a little more. Maybe the lack of things we hate about eachother are why we're still together after 28yrs.

    I can tell you she'd say my sarcasm can get a little thick at times and my bad jokes are her annoyances.
     
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    That and snoring:ugh

     
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    For me it is her constant jealous tendency.
    Here's me an older guy and her young, fresh, vital but the minute I smile and speak to another woman her claws are bared. Later she will give me a real bad time about my "flirting".
    Heavens above, I know no other way to communicate with ones of the opposite sex.
    It is just me and the way I am.
     
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    hehe forearm endurance! I likey :)
     
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    OK, after ranting so much about our problems, I have to give my wife a bit credit in these cases. I hear of lots of women (and men) that are extremely jealous, both here and among friends, but my wife has very little of it. When she is in a good mood she will sometimes say things like "let's go to our neighborhood restaurant today. They have nice food, and you like to flirt with the waitress".