Last night, my husband and I went to bed early for a little bit of fun. After getting freshened up, I lit some candles and waited for him. I had thought about grabbing some toys, but decided to let him chose them, or not, whatever he wished. He showered and came out of the bathroom and I told him to grab what he wished. He grabbed the new Eroscillator, then said, "No, that takes too long." and started looking for the wand. What he said, burned my ass but good! I mean, it was only 9 pm or so, so we had plenty of time on our hands. I raged to myself for an instant then said, "What's your fucken rush? You know I'm sick and tired of you always making me feel rushed to come. It makes me feel pressured, which in turn, makes it harder to come. What do you think I am, just a pussy? Are you really in such a hurry to get me to come just so you can mount up and have done with it?!" (Now, keep in mind, I had already explained these things to him in a much quieter demeanor on more than one occasion.) He apologized profusely as he fumbled for the E. I was so furious I was at the point of telling him to just go fuck himself, but I realized that was not going to do either of us any good, so I just told him to forget the toys and come to the bed. He did, and started to go down on me. I pushed him away and made him slow down and do some kissing and caressing. We both relaxed after that and I thought of something new for us to try. I grabbed the Wand AND the E and we used them on each other. I had never used a vibe on his ass and he enjoyed it so much he could not focus on what he was doing to me with the Wand, so I just told him to forget about me for a while. I finished him by sucking him off and using the vibe at the same time, which he just LOVED. After that, he reached for the Wand, but I told him to just use his tongue on me. I told him it might take a while so he'd better just accept that. He gave me a "Yes dear" and a smile then proceeded to get me off like a pro. What started out as a disaster, turned out to be a pretty decent night for the both of us. I am glad that I spoke up for myself and made myself clear, then let the anger go. I am glad that he took me seriously and actually listened to me. I am thrilled we were able to try something new and about how much he enjoyed it. A little bit of progress, at last.