[Ask a Girl] what's the deal ladies?

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  1. rrandommchaos

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    Ladies(some),

    I understand that you are constantly being ask to cam up. A lot of the guys are rude and inconsiderate too. Every time I ask a female in a cam2cam chat room, or anywhere. I get treated poorly.

    I'm blunt, straight to point, and don't push it. So why is it that I'm always belittled. What are they doing in those rooms and places if it's about sex. They should understand the risks involved?
     
  2. thunderseed

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    Ha, that reminds me of my pornhub profile. Read my about me lol: http://www.pornhub.com/users/thunderseed/post/stream_posts_users/118352301

    I can be kind of ruthless. It's seriously annoying when random guys send me cam requests all the time, or message me saying "What are you doing?"

    I always say, WTF do you think I'm doing on a porn site, genius? I'm watching porn and trying to masturbate but you keep interrupting me! I've asked them though, what are you doing here if you aren't watching porn? They always say, "I'm just here to hook up". At some point I think some guys really need to lower their standards and they'll find they can get laid no problem in real life.

    I never understand why every guy seems to think that their offer to show me their dick on some crappy low quality cam is so much better than me watching professional pornstars in real porn videos. Not to mention they always tend to expect something in return, well that takes the pleasure out of it for me. I don't watch porn to please someone else, I do it for myself. That's selfish, sure, but it's my personal time to get off, I'm not going to use that time to get someone else off.

    Also, watching masturbation is nothing like watching sex. Watching masturbation is boring compared to watching sex.

    People who watch porn, usually watch porn because they like the idea of watching strangers having sex without getting caught. You get the feeling that you are tresspassing on someone's private time, that's what I like. But as soon as you cam it becomes horribly interactive, that does not turn some people on. I hate the social aspect of it. Some people, like myself, are literally creepy perverts who just like to stalk people in the distance without being noticed.

    When people become willing to me, it actually turns me off. Oh my god, I am such a bad person, but it's true. I just like to watch people have sex without their permission, as soon as they give me permission it really just annoys me.

    It's even more annoying when people "beg" to have internet cam sex. It's like wow, why are you so needy, can you really not get laid in real life? I'm not like that, I'm a recovered sex addict and even during my sex addict days I would have never considered cam sex to be anywhere comparable to real life sex, now I can get laid whenever I want with my partner, that's yet another reason why I'd never cam with anyone, I am taken, and just because I'm on a porn site does NOT mean I am interested in cheating on him.
    I watch porn because that is what I do when I masturbate. Just because I masturbate doesn't mean that I am lonely and am in search for some random guy. And no offence but some of these random guys that do message me are just not the kind of people I'd ever be attracted to anyway, so why should I watch them on cam if I really don't think they are attractive? Also, I literally just hate being on any type of camera, I am not very photogenic and have bad confidence, even taking pictures of myself is a huge ordeal.

    So there are a bajillion reasons why I would never go on cam, and I'm pretty sure other women have different reasons than my own as well. Maybe that answers your question a little bit.
     
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    ^ She pretty much summed it up.
     
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    Wow that was a hilarious , honest , straight forward , and awesome answer. Need more people like you
     
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    Oh and I have never cam med with anyone and personally the only woman I know that are into it did it for money. I have never known a woman that did it for pleasure or fun unless it was with another woman. Just my experience
     
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    Being a bitch to those kinds of ppl is totally understandable. I dont beg I ask one question and move on.

    So why am I being treated like a douche?

    I usually start of hi hru. Then response from them, and then ask would you like to skype
     
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    Not really sure what your definition of being treated like a douche is lol. After you ask one question and move on, are they coming after you with vengeance, insulting you and what not? Because, if that's the case, I'm not sure, maybe they are just trolling you because they think it's funny. Honestly, I usually just ignore people when they ask me.
     
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    I only act like a bitch when someone keeps coming back expecting me to cam or whatever because I'm part of a sex site in some fashion.

    I will say that you have asked me to cam via private message. It wasn't a hello or how are you or anything of the sorts. You had literally never spoken to me before and your only message to me was "wanna skype". I responded civilly as did you in return.

    If this is any indication of how you normally do it, I would say you're treated poorly because you make no effort in actually getting to know anyone before assuming they'll want to cam with you. That can become tiresome and very annoying very quickly on a site such as this or any cam sites for that matter. Just because they are on a cam site doesn't mean they want to be randomly approached, sometimes it's nice to see someone has more interest then watching you repeatedly shove a dildo up your vag.
     
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    And that is how you put someone on blast ladies and gentlemen! Go Mittimer!!
     
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    You gotta love her.
     
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    These responses have made me fall in Love with the ladies of SF all over again. :D
     
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    I totally agree with this statement.
     
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    My point wasn't to put him on blast, it was more to point out that I've experienced what he does and it didn't start with even so much as a greeting. 9.5/10 times when someone you've NEVER spoken to or interacted with in any way messages you asking to cam, no will be the answer.

    I hadn't even been posting much on the forum at that point so I can't imagine what made him choose me to message. I know I can't be the only person he's messaged. I'm a snarky bitch in a lot of posts, I've got zero photos up for anyone to see and I very clearly say I don't cam or share photos in various threads if you dig enough. If anything, I'd imagine that to be off putting for most people who don't personally know me.
     
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    Im sure it wasn't but it was still my favorite part.
     
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    Don't worry (which I know you wouldn't) - we all still love you here, Mitt. "Off-putting" and "bitchy" as you may be. :D
     
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    Not to be an ass , but seriously listen to what Mittimer said. It makes sense. Seriously if a woman just messages me and just asks to cam I am just going to think , or even say a loud, "wtf? Who is this broad? Pass". Just sayin
     
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    And to the OP- don't take these posts the wrong way. You asked- they answered. It's honesty and that's what you wanted.
    So maybe in your future cam adventures try talking and flirting, maybe getting her to laugh and relax,instead of saying nothing, whipping out your cock, and holding up a sign that says "Tits Plz". Lol
    Not saying that's what you do, but c'mon. Very few women are gonna jump in front of their web cams naked and do whatever you ask, just because you say so. Just because you're on a site where there is a possibility of cam2cam hook ups, doesn't mean it's an automatic guarantee.
     
  18. Doitagain

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    I say send them voice recordings asking them to cam but use Yogi Bear ' s voice like " yo babeee...how bout a littllle cam to cam?"
     
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    Or break out in a Disney style song
    " be... Our... Guest,be our guest
    Turn on that cam and show your breast!!"
    :D:cool::):p
     
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