[Ask a Guy] What's so amazing about BJ's?

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  1. thunderseed

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    Can you tell me why men seem to prefer blow jobs more than actual sex? It's never been the case in my experience but it seems that way on porn, and I know obviously porn sex is nothing like real sex, but do men prefer blow jobs over pussy in real life too?

    And what's up with foreplay in the middle of sex??? You know how they stop every few minutes during porn to have foreplay? Is that just a porn thing, or do people actually do that in real life too?
    Personally, that's not how it is for me!
    It's just sometimes watching all this porn makes me wonder...
     
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    Not for me; pussy is the best every time, the rest is foreplay.
    Occasionally we return to doing foreplay things during sex as a means of prolonging without losing the the mood. Sort of reduced intensity but still keeping the pace going. Also do it often after her first few Os to rebuilt sexual tension leading to many more yet keeping mine at bay ;)
     
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    Thanks!
    When you say prolonging, do you mean when you need to rest or trying not to cum?
    Does she get "tired" after she orgasms?
     
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    What's so amazing is the feeling of a wet tongue running all over the sensitive, throbbing end of my cock. But pussy feels amazing too, I love both.

    I sometimes return to foreplay if I feel like I'm going to cum too soon during sex. I also just like to spend time giving the girl orgasms, as well as enjoying full penetrative sex.
     
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    My husband has his moments. Sometimes he prefers a bj, sometimes sex and sometimes just to jerk off.

    We used to go back and forth from foreplay to sex but we simply do not have the time anymore. Now it's just sex to get off. Very rarely do we get foreplay.
     
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    I enjoy the mental and physical of a good blow job. She's allowing my penis to enter her mouth (mental) and if it's a good blow job she's controlling the intensity of of her suction to my reaction (physical)
     
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    Cool, which way do you prefer?
     
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    Nice so you are pretty equally into both. I'm just assuming having someone lick the tip would be a lot different feeling than having sex, especially if its balls deep. So do you prefer the feel of licking over sucking?
     
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    I think you'll find (as you can already see) that men don't really prefer one over the other - it merely depends on the mood and situation. There are times (admittedly selfish and lazy times) where all I want is to "get mine" and not worry about anything or anyone else - that would be a blowjob time. Other times I'm interested in a more "interactive" experience - that would be an "actual sex" time. Not that the two are necessarily exclusive - they tend to go in tandem most of the time (in my experience)...
    As far as porn goes: One thing you have to bear in mind is that those actors/actresses in porn are doing a full day of shooting. Every small thing they can do to keep going and make it "authentic" has to be done. That's part of why generally there are the foreplay interludes between the hardcore action... Pills, topical steroids, and "fluffers" can only do so much.
     
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    Been so long since I've had a good blow job that I would want that more right now. Especially if she knows what she is doing and can edge me along. Mmmm. That being said if I got only one choice is much rather fuck a sweet pussy than get a blow job.
     
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    to be honest all types of sex, BJ's, Pussey, Anal all has its place depending on alsorts of aspects,mind set etc....
     
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    Agreed
     
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    Just going by answers here I have already found that some men do prefer one over the other... I doubt all men are the same, isn't it just personal preference? It's just interesting because there is obviously a huge audience the porn industry is targeting with their BJ porn.
    They add in tons of random foreplay during porn because that's what they are told to do, it's targeting a specific audience. You can tell when it's not staged, like when women are in pain and hate it and use foreplay as an excuse to get away from sex.
    I don't understand what's so hard about shooting porn all day long... don't most people have sex all day long with no problems? At least, I do and I don't have to stop to have foreplay every two seconds. With the exception of Mandingo, pornstars have good endurance. That guy just pisses me off because he has to pull out every two seconds. Anyway, it's all staged. They don't even eat pussy right, they just wiggle their tongues for a few seconds, because the camera has to be able to see the clitoris but as far as porn is concerned, no one wants to watch a pussy getting sucked. LoL that's how it is, a couple of seconds for her, and half an hour of BJ for him. It's all based on a certain male audience and very unrealistic.

    I know that my bf prefers actual sex over foreplay, whatever the situation is, he'd rather just have sex LoL. For some reason, all the men I've been with except one were this way too. The one guy couldn't actually get off unless he was eating me out and he wasn't into having sex at all, which I actually found kind of strange to be honest, not to mention it was so boring for me but I guess I've just never encountered that before.
    Anyway, my bf is the opposite, he would only be into foreplay if he wanted to be "interactive" or if I wanted it and when it comes to sex he's more interested in getting what he wants, he's ruthless in bed, he likes to start out slow and gentle but prefers it really rough, but I like it that way because I also prefer rough sex over foreplay. I guess we are lucky that we don't have to stop a lot and can go for hours. It's not like he lasts long, but he recovers fast.
    Well my bf doesn't mind giving oral but isn't too fond of recieving for some reason, but he's pretty "dominant" and I guess gets off more on doing things.
     
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    Kind of hard to read your sentence but I'm assuming you like all types of sex and aren't just fascinated by blow jobs?
     
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    its all a mind set I like all aspects of sex depending on (our) mood :)
     
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    I think you just answered all your own questions - why're you asking us?! Haha! :)
    Yes, it is all personal preference. What's so hard about shooting porn all day is that (again) it's a movie shoot. It's not just one day, it's over the course of several days (or longer) and also all day everyday. And yes, all porn is staged - just how staged it feels determines quality (generally). Most is, yes, based on a specific male audience and totally unrealistic.
    And I don't have sex ALL DAY LONG with no problems! In fact, I don't know of anyone who does it ALL DAY with no problems - that strikes me as ludicrous. After those first few hours aren't you just uncomfortable? I (probably) would be...
     
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    Okay cool so what kind of moods make you want different things?
     
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    that depends on circumstance i.e when away in a nice hotel long forplay and mind blowing sex, when getting ready for work a quickie in the shower just a few examples and anything in between....

    sometimes a BJ is apart of foreplay or on its own its all very enjoyable.. :)
     
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    Why do you think I'm asking you LoL? Because I'm curious to know what everyone likes individually.

    Well I guess you now know someone who can have sex all day long without problems. I've been with a lot of men who can handle my stamina and abnormally high sex drive.
    Okay, but I will admit that I am a sex addict so maybe it isn't normal.
    After several hours I get pretty sore but even that feels good to me. I orgasm amazingly when it hurts. A good nights sleep and I'm healed by the next day.
    There have been times when I've injured myself though and then it takes longer to heal.
    I've had people complain about how long I can last though.
    Or the classic, "No, not again!" or "Let's just go to sleep..." Ha. Yeah... but still, you'd think pornstars wouldn't be that different than I. They would have to be sex addicts, you'd think.
     
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    Nice, thanks for sharing :)