What's most important to you in a partner?

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  1. RockyRaccoon

    RockyRaccoon New Member

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    Just curious how you ladies would rate the following qualities in a significant other. Just put them in order, and then put gaps to show how important that is compared to the next one, the bigger gap the more important.

    - sense of humor
    - career
    - looks - face
    - looks - body
    - heart
    - penis size/shape
    - libido / sexuality / sensuality

    assuming that none of these are extreme of course, like the body isn't 500 lbs or the penis isn't a 1" baby carrot.

    For example, my list for a woman would be:

    - heart


    - sense of humor

    - looks - face

    - career
    - libido / sexuality / sensuality
    - looks - body

    - vaginal tightness



    Be honest now :)
     
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    - looks - face
    - heart / sense of humor / libido / sexuality / sensuality (All of equal importance; couldn't choose between them.)
    - looks - body
    - career (As in "net worth", I take it.)
    - penis size/shape (If he's a good lover, the dick is really irrelevant.)
     
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    For my guy: ;)

    Heart
    Sense of Humor
    Looks-face
    Libido/sexuality/sensuality
    Career
    Looks-body
    Penis size
     
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    heart


    sense of humor


    career
    libido


    looks face
    penis size/shape
    looks body
     
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    sense of humor!

    some sort of bedroom knowledge

    kind heart

    patience

    life stability

    love of children

    decent family

    looks
     
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    For what I look for in a guy:
    - sense of humor
    - heart


    - looks - face
    - looks - body
    - libido / sexuality / sensuality

    - career

    - penis size/shape
     
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    Heart
    Sense of humor
    sexuality/libido/sensuality
    Looks-face
    Career
    Looks-body
    Penis size/shape
     
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    - sense of humor
    - heart

    - libido / sexuality / sensuality

    - looks - face and body




    - career
    - penis size/shape
     
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    - sense of humor
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  10. BassDude

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    I think I've probably always known that most women would take a big heart over a big schlong (bonus if ya got both of course :brow) The next time some guy asks a penis size question, we should all refer him to this thread. Every single lady so far put penis size/shape last on the list, if it was even listed at all. Most put heart or sense of humor first or near the top...that ought to send a strong message to all the guys here.

    I recall that my mom used to tell me when I was a kid "You're going to be a handsome man when you grow up...make sure you treat women with respect and kindness, they'll all love you, and you can have just about anyone you want". I didn't always actually believe that (when I was a teenager through early twenties), but the older I get the more I see the absolute wisdom in what she told me.

    BD
     
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    Oh, this wasn't really asked for, but my list for a woman would be:

    - Heart
    - Sense of humor
    - Sensuality/sexuality
    - Looks (face)
    - Looks (body)
    - Career

    I would take sweet, funny, and sexy anyday over drop-dead gorgeous but unkind with no sense of humor or caring. In fact, I'd much rather be "sexy" myself than "gorgeous"...sexy comes from the mind first, where "gorgeous" is entirely dependent on your body (which could change easily due to anything...aging, sickness, accident, whatever). I think "sexy" is a combination of a lot of things...erotic mind, lack of inhibitions, kind heart, sense of humor, respect for yourself (but not self-centered focus), respect for others, giving orientation (in everything), genuine desire to please/help other people (especially your SO), etc.

    BD
     
  12. cbrmale

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    For me, I like a woman who has a sense of humour, independant, intelligent, patient, attractive and who looks after herself and cares for how she looks (more or less in that order, although attractiveness is higher than last for me).

    Like most men I don't want or need drop-dead gorgeous (but I once knew a gorgeous and sexy woman who had the most delightful personality). But I always needed visual attraction to make the effort to introduce myself or to stay interested if we were introduced, so if a woman wasn't reasonably attractive she didn't stand a chance.