My lover and I have been together for three years now and have been through alot together, lots of personal, emotionally straining things, but have hung in there. When we first met, like most relationships, sex was awesome, maybe because I was married at the time and it was all new and all that, etc. I am really into sex, love it, but he doesn't show the interest that I do anymore. His libido is definitely not in tune with mine, I guess. I am not afraid or unwilling to do ANYTHING, and I tell him this, maybe I'm too aggressive..? I initiate sex when we have it, which could be up to three times a day, if I could have it my way. But it is getting dull. I feel like he's not really a participant, just a body lying there for me to pleasure myself with. Hey, that's nice sometimes, and fullfills a need, but I want to be touched, too. Could I be turning him off? I always thought men LIKED women who were willing to make love first thing in the a.m. and all that. I could be in bed with a vibrator sometimes and get as much satisfaction, you know? Does anyone else have this problem or am I dealing with deeper issues? He always says he has "too much on his mind". Hmmmm...? Which would be..?