[Ask a Girl] What to do if Men Last a lot longer than you?

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  1. Slevinish

    Slevinish New Member

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    Here is my dillema... last night was my first time doing any kind of sexual act. Oral and Mutual masturbation. I had a great time and was very aroused... but I generally take an hour or more to Orgasm. and she was done in 20 minutes. So we spent the next, nearly two hours trying to give me an Orgasm. in the end her arms were so tired and her jaw so sore I had to finish on my own.

    So, I ask this as a guy, seeking a girls perspective. how can We make her last longer and me last less long?

    I'm still a Virgin in terms of penetration. and I had never done any of this stuff before last night. I just figured with a girl present my time frame would speed up! not slow down!

    I need to not last as long in bed! help!?
     
  2. nurseharley

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    were you nervous or anything?
     
  3. RawDog

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    Hand jobs/Blow jobs take a helluva lot longer than PIV sex. I've never had an unassisted orgasm from those...ever. Just hold off trying to have an orgasm when you do non-penetrative sex, and all will be ok. The fun is in the journey, not the destination.
     
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    Nope, I just take a long time!
     
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    Maybe too much porn desensitized you.?

    or

    you use a death grip when you jerk off
     
  6. Slevinish

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    ^ I am sure those are both contributing factors.
     
  7. arugula

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    The explanation is probably multifactorial:

    1 Virgin and inexperienced.

    2. Even the experienced can take awhile to relax with someone new. Give it a couple times, enjoy being together, and try not to be goal oriented.

    3. Don't choke the chicken or look at porn for a week before your next date (if it's the kind of relationship you can schedule), and you will be erupting like Vesuvius...