Certain professional events started me thinking about a thread I started several weeks ago, that I can't find (Mmmmmm!!!) regarding asexuality and the differences between that orientation and being sexually oriented. If one digs around enough, one will find there's the concept of being sexually grey. It has to do with feeling sexual desire in terms of personal/emotional attachment. In other words, there's a continuum between pure asexuality and sexuality. In that continuum, there is a designation called Demisexual that is becoming a recognized sexual orientation. We really love our labels. If one does a word analysis, it basically means "half sexual". lbushwalker's quote, on this thread, http://www.sexualforums.com/threads/which-would-you-pick.43426/ started me thinking about a "test" that's on a website for those who are self professed asexuals, helping those with questions, and sharing in fellowship. (Like we do here.) Here's the website: http://www.asexuality.org/en/ While searching the website I began to realize that I strongly associated with being grey, and this result is being born out, as the majority opinion, on several poll threads I have up on several different sites, asking about the hypothetical preference of a good personality versus a good lover, as a decision point for a relationship (one night or a lifetime). When I first discovered the website regarding asexuality, I came across a "test" in one of the forums that is supposed to help one decide if they are asexual, demisexual, or sexual. Here is the link to the "test": http://lonerwolf.com/demisexual-test/ It's on a website called LonerWolf. The site is extraordinarily fascinating, and I recommend one have a look, if you're inclined. However, remember, that as with everything and everyone, there is an agenda. Here is the link: http://lonerwolf.com/ Back to the "test". I can't account for the origin of the questions, or their psychosexual veracity. The question count is small, and there are no double blind corrections. However, it was a fun and interesting experiment. I answered the twenty questions as honestly as I could and my result is that I am definitely demisexual. I need personal/emotional connection in order to feel sexual attraction. This doesn't really surprise me. I have always been able to admire a woman, but don't immediately want sex. The few exceptions were in my youth, while in a drunken, drug filled haze. So, give it a try, and you might find something out about yourself you didn't know, or even consider. Depending upon your opinions, I might post the "test" on the other sites I'm involved in. You all are my favorites. In the end, does it even matter what label you place on yourself, if you're happy? P.S.-backcheck64, perhaps this gives you a little more information into the workings of my mind.