What makes a relationship?

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  1. college_girl

    college_girl New Member

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    In all of your opinions...
    What are the essential elements that make up a relationship? What are the elements that make up a really good relationship?
     
  2. HardRocker

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    Mutual: attraction, empathy, self-awareness, patience, imagination, humor, humility, effort, purpose, variety, re-kindling, (reminding yourselves about all of the above and doing it all over and over again), and history.

    I'll pause there, because I know I'll be slapping myself on the forehead saying, Damn, I should have said...!

    It ain't easy, but it's definitely worth it. The part about history; that's the glue that some-day begins to hold it together, but failing to pay attention to all of those details can still stress it out.
     
  3. justthegirl

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    for me, there definitely has to be the physical attraction. but you also need to be "self-aware" as HardRocker said and you cant be happy with someone until you're happy with yourself..but remember you can't depend on anyone else to make you happy either. that being said, relationships need trust, honesty and communication. without those it wont work.
     
  4. HardRocker

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    Good points; trust, honesty and communication. Told you I'd miss some.:)
    Welcome to SF, jtgirl.
     
  5. fantasien

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    Honesty, openess, communication and love are the four main elements I think a re important. But that's just me.
     
  6. suite91

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    It's not just you, we feel this way too. I'd like to add Trust to the list.

    With these components we've formed a marriage I would have never thought possible.
     
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    What makes u ready 4 a relationship is urself do u think ur ready to commit? dats the question u gotta asked urself if ur not then fine but dont give expectations to other peopsn who thinks u r ready for a relationship when ur not
     
  8. HardRocker

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    Bud, please don't speak "text" in the forums. We speak adult English here.
     
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    I can say after 23 years of marriage all those ingredients are real important. But once you start losing some of those ingredients like communication,it is hard to get it back. And right now I say most times once a wall goes up it won't come down.