so basically- I think I'm fairly clueless in bed- but I've come a long way already so I think I'm a fast learner- just need a nudge in the right direction.. I'm 20, and I've technically been sexually active since I was 17 when I lost my virginity, but I've only ever had 1 regular sexual partner.. I basically just don't get how I 'participate' in sex as a girl- I've been told by more than one guy I give amazing head- and that's probably my strong point in sex- I really enjoy it and get really turned on by it- I've found it a real problem getting wet with this boy I was currently sleeping with- so penetration sometimes hurt if I could do it at all... but the main problem was that I wasn't all that into it. I'm really physically attracted to him and he's pretty good in bed (and really confident and just knows how much he likes sex- which goes a long way at my age in england!).. I'm always way more into sex when I'm drunk or stoned (even just a little)- and I think that makes me better.. generally I find sex really tiring- which makes no sense because its usually the boy doing all the work. if I go on top, I feel really unsure- I don't know what I'm doing (I was like that giving head before I watched some porn and got the gist).. and basically- it just feels like a really awkward position for me. it might be just that I feel self-conscious (I'm not self-conscious at all about how I look, just generally) and- I don't really get if anyone knows what I'm talking about here- but I find sex really sort of..hard to take..for too long- even if its good- maybe this is because my current boy has a huge dick- and I think he likes doing it pretty hard. I would really like to try doing it where I'm standing up and bent over.. or sitting on a table or ledge against a wall- but I don't have the confidence and I'm always nervous it'll take me too long to get wet (this is often a problem).. any general advice for me? I don't want to be boring in bed- and I know I'll enjoy it way more if I just know what I'm doing and I can have fun experimenting..