What just happened?

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  1. AGFUNK

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    Ok, here is what happened. My husband didn't want to have sex so I settled for masturbating on my side of the bed. My husband was playing a video game on his side. I was quiet so I was not bothering him. In the middle of my session he saves his game and goes to the kitchen for food. He was really quiet in there and I thought that he was going to come and fuck me. But no when he gets back in the room I'm on the verge and he says to me "you're not finished yet? Are you kidding me? Why don't you go get the big dildo and finish it already". Earlier I had told him about a solo session I had with said dildo and he got upset thinking that he wasn't enough for me. So I stopped because of what he said. Now he doesn't know why I'm pissed.

    Has anyone else had their SO stop them from masturbating? Anyone have some insight, etc?

    BTW stopping a squirting orgasm hurts. I would assume close to that of blue balls.
     
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    That was nasty knew all along you were dying for it and ignored that need then casually ask if you finished yet?
    Maybe time you need to use said dildo..........on him!
     
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    He would actually enjoy that otherwise I would.
     
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    If he's on one side of the bed playing a game while you're trying to get off, I'd be pretty pissed off tbh. If this is how he is, then he clearly isn't enough for you and this is one perfect example of why.
     
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    What's tbh? He is enough for me. This is the first time this has ever happened. Any other time he would let me do my thing or join in. Now he's watching porn. God forbid I get off but of course he's allowed to.
     
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    tbh.....to be honest.
     
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    Wow that's just mean. If I had a wife that wanted it on a reg basis wow I would be in heaven. Especially one that openly discusses sex and things of that nature. I would maybe if I could resisit let you do your own thing pretend like I don't want it as a game but that game would not last very long. Iw ould not care if my wife used toys hell I would want to get her toys to help her out.
     
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    He knows exactly why you are mad at him, dont let him fool you. He was clearly still pissed or ego hurt from you telling him about the hot solo session with the "magic" dildo. Thats just my two cents.
     
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    Had pretty much the same experience with out the video game and the aren't you done yet. First I was hurt and literally cried myself to sleep, then I got pissed off! Still pissed off when I think about it. We need what we need and no one should ever treat us that way. And I agree it does hurt to stop!

    Now I do what I want when I want and to hell with him.
     
  10. Alwayslearningsex

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    Now this is another classic perfect fit to become a target for that thread "Why men are scum" giving the rest a bad name.
    Shit now, should he be happy to please his wife and see her get off ......
    That would lead to a better sex life, better relationship.
     
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    well he has the right to not want sex sometimes. maybe he wasn't really comfortable with you getting off instead of waiting for him or doing it right there beside him? he told you how he felt with the dildo session and he was obviously uncomfortable thinking it got you off more than he does/can. maybe he thought you were throwing it in his face so he tried throwing it back in yours
     
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    Thats fucked up. If my wife starts to masturbate, I'm jumping in, usually all she has to do is look at me and we're at it. If I happen to be in the living room watching TV or on the computer, she'll stroll in in lingerie and I'll drop what ever I'm doing. Only once in recent memory did I turn down any advances and that was because I was sick, two nights later I made it up to her....she came 4 times.

    Yes I've stopped her from masturbating...because I took over, not because she was distrubing my video game...I'm not a gamer anyway.
     
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    True but he could have had a little more compassion. And if it bothers him he could have talked with her (which it seems most won't)

     
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    i don't disagree but he did say he was upset and he didn't feel like he was enough.

    i'm just now reading this and i'm gonna go ahead and say he's full of crap. first off, no one can stop you from masturbating. if he does it then there's no reason why you can't. if he's that immature then you really need to have a talk with him and let him know he's being a hypocrite. you're not obligated to stop pleasuring yourself for anyone.
     
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    yeah if he didn't get the hint that I wanted some and totally ignored the fact by continuing to play a video game and then getting up and coming back in to ask "You're not finished yet?" and then not even lending a hand. I'd be really pissed too.
     
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    You hurt his ego by pleasuring yourself with a toy
     
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    I talked with him last night and today. There was other issues, for lack of a better word. In summary we were both hurt and now we are talking about it and the other things. We both apoligized and making it up to each other. Please disregard my first post and if anyone would still like to comment please read what I'm just writing now in this post as well.
    I was pissed last night so I put up this thread to vent and whatnot. I should have just talked with my husband instead of just losing my temper.
    Thank you all for your input though.
     
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    I'm glad you're both feeling better and working this through :)
     
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    Good Stuff. Always better to talk
     
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    Good to hear. :)