I assume a lot of us have our kinks, but it has become somewhat normal; that assumption led me to think that our normal "events or sessions" might vary widely. For Silverette and me, we usually start flirting, sometime during the day through phone calls or email. We go home, workout, drink and talk, eat dinner, and turn on the television. If there's a competition show on, I'm out of luck, but if not... We start necking. Yes, we still do that on the couch. I always seem to misplace my glasses when we do, and she has to find them for me later. Usually we move to the bed, but not always. We're not much into toys, so we start manually. Having said we're not much into toys, I must give a shout out to pbs for putting me onto a wand that sends Silverette through the roof. We then move to oral, sometimes mutual, sometimes exclusive. I almost always make her cum at least once before I enter her. Occasionally, she'll give me a blowjob, but she want's to do it before she's satisfied. Typically, she wants one or two orgasms, then sucks me off, then wants another one or two. Many times, we play domination games, but they're usually mental. We let each other dominate. At other times, it gets physical. Since I'm so much larger than she is, it's easy for me to hold her down, or force her into a position I want. She's just not strong enough to stop me (I would never force her to do something she didn't find pleasurable.) She usually controls me during oral sex, with her teeth or a hand on my balls. Sometimes we use restraints. We've used satin rope, but you can get knots in it, and that doesn't make for a good "afterglow". You can get it at a crafts store. For some reason, I think the sales lady who sold it to us knew what we wanted it for. We've decided to move into something that's designed for bondage. Something like this: http://www.amazon.com/Sportsheets-Under-Bed-Restraint-System/dp/B000VHH5DW/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1388349624&sr=1-1 We have a couple of Liberator shapes, so we may order this. I know the shapes are high quality, so I'm assuming the restraints they import are probably high quality, also. http://www.liberator.com/bed-buckler.html Whatever we get, it needs to be tough enough that I can't break free, although I probably won't try too hard The only pain we're into is from biting. I don't see us moving into whips or riding crops. I don't believe we'd like that. We've never tried a blindfold, so I think that's also a possibility, but I don't know. I like to watch her. But, she might like to torture me, by not letting me watch. Hmmmmm. We've been exploring anal play and penetration, but I'm not sure how that's going to work out. Silverette doesn't find it painful, but the prep time is kind of off putting. I know, we're pretty vanilla, but as I alluded to above, what really revs our engines, is mental. So what is your normal?