[Ask a Guy] What is this type of BJ is this?

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  1. Ashlee41293

    Ashlee41293 New Member

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    I'm embarrassed to ask this but last couple of times I gave a BJ he grabs it and jerks it off in my mouth... I always have my eyes shuts because semen burns my eyes if it accidentally might happen. What is this? Is there a name for it and what is the point for the guy- visual or sensation?
     
  2. Trond

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    I would call it a facial or cum in mouth. Sounds a bit like your guy has been getting inspiration from porn, as it is a very common hard-core porn thing. Hmmm, how do you feel about it?
     
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    its called incredibly awsome
     
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    It's a mixture of visual stimulation and domination. Just relax and enjoy, as well as keep the eye wash near by.
     
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    :lol
     
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    I call it "fine-occasionally-but-don't-try-it-all-the-time-or-the-blowjobs-will-stop".
     
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    True that :D
     
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    I'm sorry, but I find that this to be one of the most disappointing things I see in porn, and it ruins the whole scene it's in.

    I agree with Dragon_Fire on this one. In short, this guy would rather jerk off at the end of the bj than let you give him an even better and wonderful feeling. It's taking pleasure vs. receiving it, and IMO, a controlling and degrading thing. I can understand doing it once or twice just to see how it feels, but if it continues.......
     
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    I agree it has to come from porn.
    I don't know how many like it or don't like it but personally I call it a waste of an orgasm if the woman starts it and the guy makes himself ejaculate instead of her finishing the pleasing. If this is what you like by all means.
    He should ask first of all how you feel about this in the first place and have consideration or maybe he doesn't deserve your BJ and treats.
    I don't care what "EVERYBODY SAYS" or "EVERYBODY DOES", respect is respect and make sure you expect it from him.
     
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    sounds like he has some kind of domination fetish and it's kind of strange that you haven't spoken with him about what he's doing. not in a how dare you way, but just a let's talk about this way.
     
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    Well Trond if that's what it is based on then I'm not sure how I feel. I'm pissed because I'm tired, i work so hard to maintain what he likes me to look like, I feel vain and shallow. I don't know if I feel degraded because he totally worships me otherwise. He does anything and everything for me. But if this is a hardcore porn thing then I don't feel like he is ever "making love" to me, ever.
     
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    Ashlee is it during a bj he does this or just jerk it and tell u to open up? It happens in porn, but also might be domination type activity. I wouldn't take it too personally.
     
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    Hey Ashley, I will sound like an old record, you have to tell him very clearly without putting him down, I think porn distorts some people's ideas of what sex is so not knowing your guy the best I can say is to tell him how you feel. The way you say he is so good with you overall chances are he will make a change.
     
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    it could be something as simple as you need a little more pressure with your grip or mouth/ suction... when he is about to finish....and he doesnt know how to communicate that with you.
     
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    Thanks guys for your input.. I appreciate it so much! I think I'm just going to just see what happens and not say anything about it yet.
     
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    Ashlee,

    I believe it's possible that some guys need to learn how to "love" a woman. by that I mean, he may have be hugely attracted to you, or desire you so much that he aches for you, but he may not yet know how to truly love you.