What is the difference between online dating websites.

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  1. wawoo

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    It all depends on how serious you are about wanting a real relationship. Internet dating does work on both the casual side and the serious side...its important to *clearly* state your intentions in your profile on said sites. If you're looking for a LTR and possibly marriage, then SAY SO. If you're looking for something more relaxed, catching a movie and maybe some fun later in the night every couple weekends...say so! Also be prepared for disappointment. I dated one girl off of Yahoo! Personals for a couple months...how she acted online and whatnot was completely unlike what she was like in person. She knew that I wanted a serious ltr, and let me believe that she wanted one too when we talked via IM. But when we met in person, all she wanted was sex. Sure that is great news for most men, and yeah, it was fun for a couple dates...but ultimately it led to us ending the relationship simply because she didnt "hold up her end of the bargain". So be prepared for things like that.

    The biggest problem with dating sites is the fact that in order to truely communicate you must pay for the service. Sure, you can browse profiles all you want, but if you want to actually talk to someone, you'd better be ready to whip out your credit card. Also beware of their "get 6 months free" schemes too. They usually have fine print attached to them.

    As for the difference between sites themselves...again it comes down to what type of relationship you're looking for. Take True.com for instance:
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    Yah...seriously.

    Certain sites are geared more for actually finding love than others. From what I can tell, Match.com & chemistry.com are geared for finding a relationship compared to fling & true. Yahoo! Personals is also a decent site...but like i said...you have to state what you want since theres some serious people and some "out for a hookup" people on all of these sites.
     
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    Thanks a lot man,
    I am looking for a girl friend, not a fuck buddy. I guess fling.com is not my choice now. It is advertised like a website for escort service. Somehow I wondered, are those sexy girls real? or just some traps? Because it popped out many many hot girls in my area.
    On match.com, Do I need to do my own search or the website will recommend someone to me? If I find someone, can I erase my profile entirely?
     
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    You can delete your profile on any of these sites at any time for any reason. Clearly if you pay for a subscription it wouldn't make sense to delete your profile prematurely, but if you find someone before said subscription is up, no one says you actually have to USE it.

    As for the site recommending someone for you, they will recommend MANY and you'll still have to sort out which ones sound right for you and which dont. And its also up to you to be proactive in contacting these women. These sites work only if you put effort into them. And I tell you right now...you're probably looking at a 5-1 ratio of men to women on these sites...so you've got your work cut out for you. But good luck! Don't get frustrated if it takes a while to find someone. Hell, to be completely honest, you may not find someone on these sites at all. I'd been on them off and on for a couple years and only dated that one girl i mentioned before. Granted I didn't put much effort into it, but the only time i ever would get some kind of response is if I took the first step. So like I said...if you plan to go this route, make sure you go for it all the way...the middle ground simply wont get you anywhere in online dating. And just because you're doing this online doesn't mean stop looking for someone the "old fashioned" way.
     
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    The ones you have to pay for probably have more quality people when you think about it. If someone is willing to put their money down they must be sincere in their efforts to find someone right??
    Big piece of advice, learn my lesson: Don't date people from Craigslist.
     
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    My wife and I met each other from online personals ads before any of those sites existed. While it won't be the same for everyone, I do know several happy couples that have met that way.
     
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    Thanks, I am not going to do that. Craigslist is not in my choices. Anyway, would you mind sharing your story? Forgive me for enjoy other people's "painful" stories.:brow I am bored, my life is boring.
     
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    The moral of my CraigsList story is: People lie and are misleading and everyone seems perfect on the internet.
     
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    I have not looked to hook up with anyone on those sites but some of the sites I have seen show pics of girls/women, supposedly looking for fun "in your area" and a lot of their pics are definetly porn stars, so you can't always go by that .
     
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    i tried lavalife.com sometime ago just for fun. It worked for me - i met a couple of girls, dated one for a while but it ended. Doesn;t hurt to try.
     
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    If you want a booty call try myspace. I tried those dating sites. they're awful
     
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    I know a few people trying www.plentyoffish.com - It's a free site. There's also a few more.

    I wouldn't pay, try a free one.