What is female attraction to rough sex?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Cheburg, Aug 28, 2013.

  1. Cheburg

    Cheburg New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 28, 2013
    Messages:
    5
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Midwest
    Gf regularly tells me she likes things rough. I have bumped up the intensity level several times and often hear grunts and whimpers but if I get rougher I feel I am just being mean. I am 6"5' 230. Gf is maybe 115lbs.

    Not once has she said stop or slow or not so hard. Maybe if I understood the attraction I could push things more and be comfortable.
     
  2. farewellolds

    farewellolds New Member

    Joined:
    Oct 4, 2011
    Messages:
    26
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    I think like guys, girls are starting to watch maybe too much porn and they get desensitized to the reasonable, passionate fuck. They get into the mindset that there has to be aggression to it because that's pretty much all porn is about, taking a hardcore pounding and having a masochistic inclination towards a guy's subtle violent and/or demeaning level of "roughness". :ugh

    In porn these day, such a thing is painted as the picture of lust.
     
  3. vampire raver

    vampire raver New Member

    Joined:
    May 24, 2007
    Messages:
    743
    Likes Received:
    9
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    South East
    It is purely psychological and there is nothing wrong with it. As long as you do not permanently damage her and she consents to it, I say have fun and enjoy. It is just basic sub and dom play.
     
  4. Meee

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 9, 2010
    Messages:
    2,198
    Likes Received:
    3,094
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Potomac, Maryland
    There's a difference between having you smack her in the face and having you thrust harder. I'm guessing that you're just talking about sex that's more vigorous. Nothing wrong with that. If she makes it clear that it's OK, then you aren't being mean, you're being nice. You're giving her what she wants.

    But don't just guess or worry by the sounds she makes if it's OK and if you're staying within her limits. Talk to her about it. Sex is about communication, whether it's rough or not.

    Some women do need more motion to feel it as much as they like. That might be all she's telling you to do. An early conversation with the boyfriend went something like this:

    "Can you slam it?"
    "You're sure?"
    "Yes."
    "Really? You're sure about this?"
    "Yes."
    "OK."
    Grunts and whimpers.

    Simple enough. Nothing mean about it.
     
    #4 Meee, Aug 28, 2013
    Last edited: Aug 28, 2013
  5. HotForHoney

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 9, 2013
    Messages:
    16,945
    Likes Received:
    17,212
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    North East USA
    Discuss what each of you are comfortable with and what you'd like to try.

    Have a safe word. Sometimes the grunts are good even though they sound painful - same w looks. As soon as she says the safe word, stop.
     
  6. Meow

    Meow Member

    Joined:
    Aug 3, 2012
    Messages:
    110
    Likes Received:
    13
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Mediterranean
    Well we all speak English here, or didn't you notice?
     
  7. lbushwalker

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    6,965
    Likes Received:
    5,078
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    'Stralia Mate!
    Spamer reported
     
  8. minskminx

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 2, 2013
    Messages:
    442
    Likes Received:
    718
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    UK
    It depends what you mean by rough sex. I do not want punched in the face or an eye gouged out! But I do like a man to show me he is more powerful than I am. I like to fight back and have him over power me.

    If you need psycology to justify it then surely it is a test of strength. A strong powerful, sexually aggressive man shows the ability to protect his woman.