What is bad sex?

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  1. gourlegr

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    I hear people frequently complain about "bad sex" with their partners. My question is, what constitutes bad sex? Is it being selfish in bed? Not making the right moves? I just want to know what the specific things are that make sex bad.
     
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    Sex when u cum but not satisfied.
     
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    Not making the right moves. Being like a robot. No touching, squeezing and feeling. Being quiet. Asking dumb questions.
     
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    Whe only cares about shooting as quickly as possible. That p*sses me off. He doesn't do it often, but when he does I'm left feeling like a discarded cum rag.
     
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    Couldn't have said it better myself Taken.....:)

    And as a footnote.....
    For what it's worth, I have found through my life that good sex has absolutely nothing to do with appearance either....:tsktsk
     
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    To me, good sex is all about making it a wonderful experience for your partner. If he/she is doing the same, you have mind-blowing sex. Bad sex is the opposite. Like the panda- eats shoots and leaves :)
     
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    Right now, no sex is bad sex
     
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    And yes I totally agree with your footnote :)
     
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    I tend to like being "taken" fast and strong. Not all the time but occassionally it's nice.. makes me feel sexy and desired.

    The rolling over and going to sleep (after a not so hot quicky) when he can clearly tell I am still hot and wanting to get off ... makes me feel like a discarded cum rag as well lol
     
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    More deal breakers:
    Boring, repetitive, same every time sex.
    Not paying attention to me. I might not tell him with words that I like something, or that "that's the spot" but my body will be telling him.
    Hammering away at my cervix. It hurts. Quit it.
    Pulling moves picked up from porn.
     
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    Beat me to it lol :)
     
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    When a women lays there motionless with zero emotion. Kinda like a dead fish. That can be bad. Because you can't gauge whether you need to go faster, deeper, harder, slower.

    I'd rather go bang a knot-hole in a tree.
     
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    yes with no direction or help
     
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    Agree

     
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    That's why i've always made sure holly gets off, i'm not done til she says i'm done lol. So she never has to feel like a cum rag lol
     
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    Falling off the bed and breaking an arm is considered bad sex in my book. Other than that, as long as I get off I'm pretty happy.
     
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    It depends on the person because each persons tastes (no pun) is different
    For me though selfish lovers are the WORST. them and boring/lazy lovers, i.e. chicks who just lie there open their legs and do nothing,

    When i fuck i want a girl to fuck back. Now thats hot :D

    Agreed strongly

    "well.... I got mines..."


    Oh the next thing that pisses me off is being rushed. Like the girl orgasms and she says shit like "hurry up, i want to go to bed" that pisses me off so much ill either be very rough or pull my shit out pack up my schnuts and gtfo

    ... or really good sex :D
     
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    Sex that's not satisfying. Sex that leaves you thinking 'is that it?' or 'are you serious?'
     
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    After I read some saying questions are good, like the partner cares and wants to ensure he gives good sex to his partner, or at least makes the effort of getting better for her. Not attacking you or being negative Taken, just the discussion and after reading diverging comments.
     
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    Not being touched, not able to touch, caress and give oral to your partner, never receiving oral even if only occasionally, a partner who won't let you make her orgasm and you only feel like you relieve your own urge but not getting the satisfaction of sex (I had that).

    Also someone who will do something nice for you but does it wrong,
    making me recoil in reflex from a spoiled orgasm ... it tickled intensely LOL
    instead of feeling so good.