First off, let me say that I dearly love the man I am engaged to. There is just one or two things that bug the crap out of me that have surfaced lately. When we first started dating, and he discovered that I was a virgin, the man seemed to have tentacles everywhere. Not that I minded at all. He was my first, and for the first few months, the sex was great. I spent a lot of it hurting simply due to the fact that things had to be... broken in, for lack of better words. About four months ago, our activity has dropped to maybe three times in a month. I'm usually gone during the day due to the fact that I'm with the National Guard and I stay at the local armory during the day. Given that I'm with a lot of men during the day, I hear a lot of things when they think I can't hear them. Anyway, it seems my sex drive outstrips my fiancee's by far. It is rather maddening to be trying to sleep when my hormones are going nuts and he's either asleep or playing xbox with his buddies. I've tried all the little turn-ons and just plain out telling him to "Fuck me". All I get is a huff and that he'll "bang my brains out in the morning." And guess what? I'm still staring at the ceiling at nine am and he's snoring loud enough to wake the dead. Or my particular favorite. We use my favorite lube, getting all frisky, I go down on him and he falls asleep. You can imagine what happens to little peter. I try for a little while, but I get rather irritated and go off to take a shower before the KY drives me insane. But lately, I'll be wore the hell out after a day of PT and get woke up at two in the morning for what seems to be a two minute bang. By the time he's done, I'm wide awake and pissed. I'm roaring and he's passed out with his itch scratched. By now you should know the routine. He loves to tease, but doesn't seem to understand my frustration when he doesn't carry through with his promises. Yes, I understand shit happens. No, I don't expect sex every day. Twice a week would be great, three times would put me in heaven. More would be awesome, but I'm happy with what I can get. Now, if you go by his bragging when he thinks I'm asleep, you'd think he was the king of porn. I usually mark that up as male one-upping and drift back off to sleep. I could care less about that. After all this, I'm wondering if there are things I can do to eliminate my sex drive. I'm tired of having to masturbate either before I come home (I know I'm not getting hanky panky) or get up at three am so I can get some sleep. I don't bother him for sex any more because it does no good. I figure he'll bug me when he's ready. But seriously guys. I know the sterotype is that ya'll can't get enough sex, ever, but it seems that I have the one guy that could happily live without it. It makes me regret ever having lost my virginity at times.