What does this woman mean?

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  1. allsexprofile

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    long story short, a guy i know dates a woman thinking it was a casual affair, woman was expecting commitment, have sex several times, on knowing her intentions he's taken aback and clarifies he only thought they were having some fun.

    she got very angry and frustrated and tells him....
    "if i wanted to have fun, what makes you think i'd have it with you"


    what does she really mean by this
     
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    It means: Why would you think I would be open to being used as a sex object.
     
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    she had been a sexually active before she dated my friend. she had affairs before and sees nothing wrong with them.
     
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    it means she was pissed off and wanted to piss him off too.

    if they've already had sex then they've already had fun
     
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    It means that she's angry that the guy didn't make his intentions perfectly clear to her from the beginning.

    Just because she's had causal sex with other people doesn't mean that it's ok for him to assume she'll do it with him and the moment things get serious (days/weeks/months) he pull the "oh it was just casual card" Virtually admitting that he was simply using her for sex when she was lead on to believe that it could be more because he wasn't perfectly clear.

    That would piss any woman off.
     
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    Couldn't have said it better myself.....:tup

    Your "friend" should have been honest with her.....:ugh
     
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    Men are more likely to look at sex as having fun. Women are more likely to look at sex as some level of commitment from a guy. Their certainly will be exceptions - I myself, when single, looked as sex as commitment - but that is one way that men and women are wired differently.
     
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    sweet home...
    why weren't the terms of the relationship talked about before they fucked in the first place?
     
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    Rarely. People are able to share sex for fun only but the essence of sex is that it is an intimate act which deepens the connection between people. Since your friend misjudged his own relationship with this girl there is no reason to think that he or you understand her past relationships. Maybe she had hoped for connection and commitment from prior partners also. This is why sex is best when it is between two loving people in a committed relationship.
     
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    to me it looks like she's saying that he's a guy she wouldn't have fun with because he's one of the good ones...She would want to be serious with him, i see sarcasm, "why would i wanna have fun with you, you're the one i wanna keep (at least for a while)" sort of thing...

    to me she seemed hurt and appalled.
    Poor girl :(
     
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    So? I was hardly a virgin when I met my SO but I dated him with the intention of a deeper commitment. I would have been seriously pissed off if he turned around and told me it was all in fun after a month.
     
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    Im assuming by "affair" you mean "relationship". We tend to use the word affair in describing cheating on someone youre either married to or dating.

    If that actually was true and she was in another relationship already, how serious could it be beyond what he was doing? Was she planning on leaving her SO for this other guy?

    Or am i wrong and thats not at all what you meant by affair?
     
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    It means all of the above.
     
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    Sounds like a scorned woman to me. Saying something nasty to get back at the guy.

    If it wasn't made clear up front he was just looking for a good time, he probably should have. So in that sense, he kinda had it coming.
     
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    Directly relating to the OP's question:
    IMHO she is angry that she used up all her aces too early before getting her hooks properly into someone she though a worthwhile long term prospect.
    In his place I would have done exactly the same (and have done so) and when the woman piped up in this manner I replied that she had not made any conditions prior having enjoyable sex with me. Had she in fact made it clear it was conditional to something permanent then I would have run a mile before considering touching her.
    People should never ever assume/expect sex = commitment.....never!
     
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    i know she was very pissed.
    i know they both misjudged the relationship.

    all i wanted was for someone to translate what she said (the bold quoted text) from 'womenspeak' into English. and hardly anyone has done that so far.
     
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    I'll try to translate. I fhink she was saying "fuck you asshole"
     
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    It was possibly just the first mean thing she thought to say, so I doubt if there is a meaningful translation. It may not even mean anything specific since it was a question, not a statement. Did he reply or just slink off? I probably wouldn't have thought of a witty reply in time to zing her back. I bet she may not have made her intentions clear as well.
     
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    From woman speak to english:

    "If I really wanted a casual relationship, what makes you think YOU would be the one I have it with?"
     
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    She may have picked up, mistaken or not, more of a commitment vibe, even if the original understanding was fuck for fun


    Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned.... does he have a bullet proof vest?