What does it mean if he doesn't kiss you?

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  1. scorpio_nymph

    scorpio_nymph New Member

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    what happens if you sleep with a guy for the first time, a guy you previously thought really liked you, and he doesn't kiss you on the mouth?
     
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    In my opinion you were treated as a whore.
    No way would a guy kiss a whore.

    I love kissing and to me it's part of sex
    But I don't think I would kiss a whore
    not that I would ever need to.

    Hiker
     
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    Some people just aren't that much into kissing. My wife is that way. I think it's a little odd, but I wouldn't read too much into it. It could be he's just "that way". Or maybe you or he had a bad breath. Ask him, not us. If you know him well enough to sleep with him, you should know him well enough to talk to him.
     
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    Bad breath? No, I'm not kidding or trying to be mean. I've had sex without kissing before because the guy had bad breath.
     
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    I agree with this...there have been girls where i would be in the mood to mess around or get playful a bit....but just got turned away by their breath....:ugh
     
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    i'm damn sure it wasn't me that had bad breath while it was going on. i noticed he had a vague oniony smell to his breath, but i'm wondering why he didn't even try to kiss me on the mouth.
    he did kiss me on the neck though.
     
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    Did you ever think he might be worried about HIS breath and didn't want to offend YOU w/it?
     
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    The Mistress, she makes much sense. :bow
     
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    Ask him!
     
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    i can't ask him; he's incommunicado at the moment, and even if he wasn't i'm not sure i'd be able to go up to him and be like "so why didn't you kiss me while we fucked?"
    and there's always the chance he might lie, so i need insight from other people.
     
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    All you'll get from here are thoughts and ideas. He is the only one that can give you the real reason. Don't approach it the way that you mentioned above but rather tell him that you would have liked to kiss him or tell him how much you enjoy kissing and see if anything changes. Good luck.
     
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    Never fuck a guy you can't trust.
     
  13. Cora

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    I'd say, just for now at least, look at the bigger picture. So far this discussion only focuses on two things... a) you two had sex, and b) he didn't kiss you at the time. If you want to decide what all this means... these can't be the only two factors that it all boils down to. If you believe this guy has liked for a period of time, and you got to the point of sex somehow, then there must have been some other interaction of some kind between you. Other than this one particular event... what has been his general demeanor towards you?

    I have been in this situation a few times... and there's no hard fast rule for what anything like this means. I've had a couple of different guys noticeably avoid kissing me during sex, and yeah, in each case they did turn out to be interested in sex but not especially interested in me. And even if I could have accepted casual flings at the time, when a guy is going out of their way to constantly remind you that "this is only casual" in petty little ways like that... it's a bit of a turn off, so I end anything like that. (Which strangely enough caused a backflip further down the track both times, and I got chased after no end when I was no longer interested lol... but anyway, I disgress).

    On the other hand, I myself have avoided kissing guys during sex. Not often, and the only reason being that when you're doing stuff that brings on a lot of heavy breathing your mouth can get too dry to kiss anyone. I might bother mentioning the reason to the guy or I might not... cause if your mouth is dry as a bone, you instinctively don't kiss as it's just not practical. Not really much of a conscious decision, and not an indication of how much I like the guy at all.

    On another occasion my (now ex) bf and I, had been out to dinner and I was avoiding kissing him, and at the worst possible time. I could tell he was about to take it to heart... and had to tell him it was over garlic breath. It was easy for me to say it... as we'd both had the chicken kiev and were both in exactly the same boat. The next time we went out for dinner he asked me, completely forgetting about it "should we get a basket of the garlic bread?" and I said "Umm... maybe not". We had a good laugh (and didn't order it).

    Anyway... could mean anything, could mean nothing. Personally, I wouldn't bail him up and ask him just yet. I'd prefer not to make a guy sweat the small stuff so early in the piece. I know communication is important, but I like to save the dreaded "I think we need to talk" for more important issues. Look at what he is communicating to you through other words and actions, and see if this kissing thing continues or was just a once off.
     
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    i honestly don't know what to make of the situation. there's the fact that he kissed my neck and i kissed other parts of his body besides his mouth.
    i should've just kissed him and seen how he responded. too late now.
     
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    Don't make anything of it just yet... try not to focus on it too heavily. I know that's easier said than done... but take a deep breath and relax, go with the flow and see what happens :)

    Drawing all your conclusions about where you stand with this guy, just over this one thing on one night... is like judging people because of which seat they chose on the bus. If he wants to see you again, he gives you a call, or always seems happy to see you etc... make something of that instead.
     
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    Has he kissed you at other times or have you yet to kiss at all? It sounds like he was maybe worried about his breath. It may be best to see how he acts towards you now you have had sex to try and judge what he is feeling towards you.
     
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    your reading too much into it. If you like him, have sex with him again and see if he kisses you. If he doesn't, then you have something to be worried about. Speak to him afterwards saying you would of liked it if he did kiss you and see how he reacts.
     
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    some people don't like to kiss
     
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    I always liked kissing escorts, if they were in to it. It made the experience more real, otherwise you may as well lube up your hand and use your imagination.
     
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    i agree totaly with you .you are right:)