What do you want to do....?

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  1. Jake424

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    Ok, trying to start a discussion here...and get active with the board.

    What is the one thing you want to do (and have not ever done) sexually?? Why not (Sig Other wont let you?)...?

    Just curious. I guess this is kind of like a "Whats your fantasy" question...but this addressess things you might want to do (that arent a whole fantasy or something) but the people you are with wont let you, or maybe you cant find the right place and time, etc.

    I am thinking of my answer.......will post it shortly...
     
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    There's not much I haven't done that I'd like to try, BUTT I would like to try getting butt-fucked by my wife wearing a strap-on. :whoa I'd never thought of such a thing until awhile back when my wife was giving me a hot oil massage that included her sliding up and down my backside. I got so hot I wished she was wearing a strap-on. It's been in the back of my mind ever since. In fact, I mentioned it to her in passing last week. Her only response was, "Whoa, I don't know about that." Who knows? We might try it sometime.
     
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    I kinda like that idea as well Joe
     
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    very interesting joe, that was going to be my answer.
     
  5. Puss_in_boots

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    Hmm..I think it would be kind of hot to be tied up and blindfolded, that kind of thing. :) I'd also like to try incorporating some toys, dildos, vibrators, etc, but my boyfriend has insecurities about it. Seems he thinks I'll like it so much that I won't be happy with just his penis anymore. I'm working on assuring him that this is far from the truth, but it takes time. Anyone have any advice for me or for him about how we can get past this?
     
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    I have explained to my husband that (as a woman) I'm not stimulated by a penis by itself. To rouse my libido into action, he needs to have charisma, energy, lust never hurts. I enjoy the attraction, aggression, the way he touches, the way he talks to me....all of these things matter a great deal to me sexually. A dildo can't do any of those things. Dildos are also predictable. I enjoy the surprise of altering speed, position and rythm during sex with a live human. Obviously you haven't run off to be alone with your toys and away from him. Why would it be any different if you incorporated them into your sexual acts?
     
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    Pirouette,

    The question was, "what do you want to try, but haven't yet tried ...?" With that in mind, I think Puss-Boots meant that these toys would be new. And commonly in sex, new things can be a kick! If they're done in a good spirit, with both consenting. I've never ever done any toys! The idea of me dildoe-ing a girl does seem exciting! She'd have to be into it though!

    There are lots of things on my "want to try but haven't yet" list!

    1. The girl blow me while she masturbates herself.
    2. A mfm 3-some. The girls fucks 1 and blows the other.
    3. Another fmf. I've already done 1. It was fun, but I was uptight.
    4. The girl stretched out like an X on a 4 post bed tied and b-folded, while i fuck her!
    5. Give the gal a full body massage and a "key points" lick off with this flavored lube stuf that Bella talks about.
    6. Go to one of those "masked sex parties" like in eyes wide shut!
    7. Oral sex a girl to full orgasm while my finger is inserted. Sounds simple and innocent, but I still haven't done it!

    There are more but 7 is a good number!
     
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    "The question was, "what do you want to try, but haven't yet tried ...?" With that in mind, I think Puss-Boots meant that these toys would be new. "
    Somehow I thought she owned a few toys.....(I wasn't aware she didn't own any).
     
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    I used to own a "vibrating massager" but it wasn't a proper sex toy. But no I've never bought a vibrator or dildo. I think that I might have to take a little initiative, though. There's a little sex shop located right next to the market square. I may have to summon up the courage to go in there alone and buy a vibrator and then come home and say, "hey, honey..look what I got!"
     
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    It took my husband a few months to go to the local porn shop with me (after having several conversations about what to try). I actually thought it was quite fun. The sales help seemed unusually friendly and helpful. I had a good laugh on the way home thinking about the men who scurried as far from me as possible in the store. I guess women don't frequent porn shops often. :lol
    Might I suggest you each get a toy? If your only purpose is to buy a dildo then I can see him being a little cautious. But if you each got something it might seem more exploratory from both perspectives. :)
     
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    I'd love to try oral sex. - Yeah - married over 40 years and never done it - she wants no part of it.
     
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    That is horrible that you have not tried oral! You on her or her on you?

    My fantasy is being fucked by my SO and him pulling out and making me suck him until he comes. Never quite got round to it. Maybe we will try this weekend.
     
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    Body Exploration

    My wife has in the past inserted a finger in my anus when she was giving me a BJ and it felt suprisingly good but she has only done it a few times and when I mention it she shys away from the subject. I like would like for her to explore me anally. I have read the threads here about the prostrate stimulation, it sounds fun, and as a person who has always loved sex when I really needed to pee it seems like it would be something I would enjoy. Although the dom in my realationship with my wife I have always felt submissive when she has me on my back giving me a BJ, I think it would be rewarding to totally submit to my wife anally. I agree with Joe and the other guys it is something I have thought about several times and feel comfortable with.
    :bow All bow to the ladies for they are what we desire most:brow
     
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    Okay - here goes. I've not told anyone about this and this forum seems to be fairly anonymous enough... Just had to say something about this, before I blow a fuse or something.

    I am a straight white male, 25 years old - tall thin and pretty fit. I am married to the sweetest girl, and have been for the last two years; she's the greatest! But recently I have had these odd feelings, gay feelings, and it's all confused me quite a bit. I should say that I have never had any kind of gay experience before, and never been "approached" or even thought about this at all - until about 3 months ago. My wife was away for the weekend visiting her parents and I was just hanging around the house that Sunday afternoon, and I don't know what came across my mind... Just horny I suppose. But I got her vibrator out of her bedside drawer and... well long story short, I had a great time that afternoon! It was so amazing having that piece of plastic pounding on my prostate (pardon the alliteration!) I had the most amazing orgasm and blew the most amazing cum load - like nothing I have had with my wife before or since; I nearly blacked out. For the last 3 months, whenever my wife has been out, I have taken the opportunity to "play around" a bit more with her vibrator and the orgasms have been just as amazing as that first one!

    And since this happened our sex life has started tapering off, because I have been a bit pre-occupied with what I want to do - the subjet of this question! I don't know where this comes from but what I am desperate to do is go out to a gay bar and pick up some bloke with a huge cock and have him fuck me silly. I want to feel a real man inside of me instead of a piece of battery operated plastic and I want him to shoot his cum into my virgin arse.

    There. I said it. i cannot begin to say how ashamed I feel about this, but I cannot get it out of my head. I have told nobody especially my wife - I KNOW she would not understand. We are both Christian as are all of our friends, and I don't even KNOW anybody who is gay! Does this all mean I am gay??? If it does I don't know what I would do - I know I would go mad!

    Sorry for the "heavy" message but has anyone been in this situation before? Does anyone have any advice, please?

    Bart:nerv
     
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    well sometimes i get the urge to cheat so bad i can't get it out of my head, but i don't do it because i love my boyfriend and don't want to risk it. and yeah, mostly i want to cheat with someone of the same sex even though i've never done that before. but, whether you want to do it with a guy or a girl, it all comes down to wanting to step outside of the relationship and you have to decide whether or not that is something you are down with. i know i'm completely against is, so my feelings of curiosity will have to be ignored.
    but that doesn't mean you have to ignore the feeling of wanting anal play...keep it for yourself or warm her up to it. liking anal play doesn't have and thing to do with being gay, or bi or whatever. it's just fun!
     
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    Internal feelings

    Anderano, as a young male we all tend to have supposed taboo fantasies of various sexual activities. This is not abnormal nor is the internal struggle that you are feeling, I myself struggled much the same for years in many aspects of sex. Does having thougts of anal play make you gay?? No. If you do have an affair with another guy to try it, does that make you unfaithful??:phat Yes. I think your realationship would be better served if you were honest with your wife about wanting to explore anally and try to get her involved before you do something you may later regret for several reasons. For myself I finally found peace with myself once I learned to accept myself as I am and not someone elses preconceived idea of who or what I should be. Explore yourself, know yourself and you will find that you will become more and more comfortable with yourself and those old feelings of shame and guilt will melt away. This is a long process that only happens when you look within yourself, I was 44 when it all changed for me and another guy here said he was around 45. I think it can happen quicker if you give it the effort it requires. Dont let your feelings cause you shame, embrace them, accept them and then if you find you still feel you are attracted to other men, do the right thing and sit things straight with your wife before you have a realationship outside the marrage.:nerv
    :bow All bow to the ladies for they are what we desire most:brow
     
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    Seriously, let's turn it around. Every woman here, consider the loving relationship that you are in right now. Would you be understanding and supportive if your partner came to you and told you what Anderano has shared with us? I would. I think in a relationship that there are many things we could try before the step of feeling a real cock in your ass. I acknowledge that this is something that you would like to feel, that you seem preoccupied with. Perhaps you are occupied with the guilt/shame. Experimentation with your loving partner could resolve those issues. This experimentation and honesty could bring you closer together and improve your sex life with her in ways that you haven't yet imagined. Perhaps one day the ultimate fantasy could be experienced. Perhaps, with time and trust, that won't ruin your relationship with your wife. Until then I think that there are some ways that you can do some experimenting and investigating with your wife, and that it may bring you closer together. One step at a time. I do not think that is hiding who you are or denying a curiousity that you have. I think it's learning more about yourself, assessing your relationships and your priorities clearly, and moving forward SLOWLY on a journey of discovery.

    Get rid of that shame! It'll eat you alive. The world is so much more beautiful when there is no guilt and shame!! I'm with ya!
     
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    Well said Melicious, couldnt agree more...
     
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    I really think I have done everything in life (sexually) that I have
    had a strong urge to do, Maybe I wouldn't have if I was married
    to a woman with a small libido, or just one with puritan views in life
    But I was fortunate to have married to woman that has (given) in
    every way I want.
    Their is very little I haven't done, Sex with a male in any way is not my way
    neither is anal sex, Those alone are the only things I have not done and that's because I wanted it that way, Of course their is times in life when
    you ask yourself what would have it been like if, But I left the if alone
    and did the thousands of things that I will never have any regrets about.
    I could give hundreds of examples here but I wont. Most of the sexual things are fresh in my mind.:sf
     
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    Thanks Everyone!

    Wow! Thanks for the advice everyone - this is my first experience on a chat room, and I guess I was expecting...? Well, not as much support! Thanks so much.

    I know this whole anal sex thing is on two levels - what I feel physically (so far with a piece of plastic pounding away at my arse) and what I feel emotionally. I cannot express in words how much I love and respect my wife and that is probably why I feel so horrible. I don't want to do anything to hurt her. Anything. I believe she feels the same for me (golly, we have been friends since we were 6!) and our marriage is the most important thing in our lives. I KNOW that cheating on her is NOT what I want to do, and that alone has kept me focussed. But when I am on my hands and knees, furiously pounding that piece of plastic into my arse, sweating profusely with the biggest hardon I have ever had and then cumming to a near-blackout orgasm... Well, it's hard to justify.

    What would I love? I would love to tell her all this and have her put on a huge strapon dildo and fuck me silly... I don't WANT to cheat on her. But just the thought of her doing THAT makes me laugh - as I said, we are both Christian and well... Well I just can't see it.

    So I think this will have to be "my little secret". I think I can be content with my own "private" sessions when she is away - I will HAVE to be: I love and respect her to much to hurt her and that must come before MY own silly physical pleasure. Right? It does bother me that during the past few months I have been "checking out" other bloke's crotches; indeed it seems like another "secret" of mine - just to go out of a day and check out every bloke I see, thinking about how big his cock is and what it would be like to have him fuck me. I will admit I am not very good at it and I have been caught a few times - there's a bloke at my gym with a huge cock that I have been caught staring at, more than once - I am pretty big myself but he's got to be 12 inches at least. When he saw me looking, he gave me the dirtiest look, I thought he was going to lamp me.

    Or maybe I will try to introduce some kind of anal play to my wife - though I am not hopeful. Our sex life has been so quiet lately and she's so... well that's almost a non-starter. I think I will have to stick with "plan A" and just pleasure myself, by myself.

    Hey ho. Now I have discovered such a wonderful community, I look forward to posting more and more. Thanks, everyone, so much. Your advice has been greatly appreciated!:bow
     
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