What Do You Think?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by HeIsMe, Jun 10, 2005.

  1. HeIsMe

    HeIsMe New Member

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    My first post...hello!

    I don't have time to elaborate on why, exactly, I'll be asking what I'm about to ask (as I write this, it's so late it's early), but I'd like to give you a little scenario and just hear what you think about it for now. I'll read your responses when I have time next, and I promise to elaborate no matter what any of you say. Please, just be honest and speak your mind. Thanks!

    Okay, do you think that the person I'm about to describe (could be someone close to me like...me :uhh: ) might possibly have gay or bi tendencies, or is he totally straight? You decide.

    Okay...the person I'm talking about is male, and he participated in sexual experimentation with a male friend when both were very young. In fact, the sexual experimentation resulted in the two of them actually having had oral sex a few times. The friend ended up moving away, and the person I'm talking about (that's annoying...let's call him "HeIsMe" from now on, okay? ;) ) really missed the things he and his friend used to do together. Well, as HeIsMe grew older, he became interested in girls, but it was always in the back of his mind how much he wanted to have oral sex with another guy again.

    Anyway, HeIsMe got his first "real" girlfriend when he was 16, and he totally loved having sex with her and everything...but, no matter how much sex they had, he still wanted very badly to give another guy head. In fact, he began to feel that something was missing from the relationship he had with his girlfriend, and he knew exactly what it was (can you guess?). Keep in mind as you read this, HeIsMe had no desire whatsoever to have a romantic relationship with another guy, he didn't want to have anal sex with another guy, he didn't want to kiss or hug another guy...hell, he didn't even find 99% of the guys he saw in his daily life attractive at all. The ONLY thing he wanted from another guy was to give him a blowjob, but the other guy had to be at least a little attractive...and, as coincidence would have it, one of HeIsMe's best friends, Allen, was much more that just "a little attractive". He was damn cute! BTW...the name "HeIsMe" is getting annoying, too, so I'll just say "I" and "me" and whatnot, since that's who I'm talking about.

    Well, to make a long story short (I don't want this to sound like some kind of porno), I set my sights on Allen, instigated little wrestling match "playfights" in my bedroom whenever he'd come over, and pretty much seduced him into letting me suck his dick. Though he was about my age and, like I said, quite good-looking, he'd never had a "real" girlfriend and was somewhat naive (yes, he was a virgin). I had second thoughts about becoming his first sexual experience, but I seriously couldn't help myself. I wanted him SO bad and he was SO cute...I just HAD to go through with it, and he wasn't hard to convince at all. Oh, in case you're interested, I swallowed (okay, so I'll get a little pornographic, but not too bad). :D

    After I'd finished pleasuring Allen that first time, I think he got a bit embarrassed, as he only spoke a few words to me and soon went home. As I laid there in bed and thought about what I just did, I could hardly believe it. I thought about how I was the very first person (aside from himself, as he'd probably masturbated quite a few times in his life) to bring him to orgasm, I thought about how awesome his erection had felt in my mouth, and I thought about how his millions of tiny sperm were probably still wiggling their way down my throat (okay, I'm getting carried away...I'll tone it down a bit). In short, I TOTALLY loved giving Allen oral sex and I knew that I wanted to do it again. I'm very grateful that he gave me that chance...at least six more times over the course of the following year.

    By now, you get the idea. I'd love to go on and describe in detail the rest of my oral encounters with Allen (some of them were VERY hot...maybe I'll tell you about them in subsequent posts if you'd like), but I think you know all you need to know for now. So, what I'd like to know is, does it make me gay or bi if I DON'T want a romantic relationship with another guy and I DON'T want to hug, kiss, or try anal with another guy and I DON'T find 99% of the guys I meet attractive and I DO find women sexually attractive and I ONLY want to give another guy an occasional blowjob? I know it sounds complicated...why do you think I'm asking?!

    Anyway, thanks in advance again for whatever advice you may have...I look forward to visiting and posting here, and I hope I can help someone else out some day.

    :)
     
  2. Eros

    Eros New Member

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    I am not a fan of labels - I think of people more as sexual rather than gay, bi or straight - honestly the labels are too limiting. With that said, lets talk labels. No I don't think you are gay. I would say that most guys think a lot about oral sex - I love seeing someone perform it. I think it is natural in loving oral sex, to love 'all aspects' of oral sex, including performing it on a guy. A porn video would be pretty boring without a penis - so it is natural to get turned on by seeing it.
    I would also say that I have thought about it. And fantasies are fine but for the long road down through life, when you get into a serious relationship, which I would assume with be a girl, choices need to be made. You may be lucky and find a girl who doesn't mind you seeing guys on the side - then you get it all. If not, there maybe other things to supplement it. Some girls like to kiss the guy afterwards and give him the cum back, etc.....
    In short, I don't think you are gay. Until you get into a serious relationship, there will be a lot of guys that you'll make smile. Once there, you'll have to decide what is better: girl with all the benefits of straight sex, emotional intimacy, trust, etc.... or a blowjobs with guys. Wish there was another answer.
    Last note: once a woman loves you - they often be fairly open to your fantasies.

    Good luck
     
  3. kbate

    kbate New Member

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    If you must have a stamp to classify yourself, then use Bisexual. There are many men and women who feel the urge for a homosexual encounter from time to time and act on it in some way or another.

    You are lucky to have found Allen.
     
  4. HeIsMe

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    Thanks, Eros...even as much as I LOVE sucking cock, I really don't think I'm gay, either (not that there's anything wrong with that ;) ). It's still nice to have a second opinion, though.

    Thanks to you, too, kbate. It's not that I must have a stamp to classify myself...I'm just interested in how others might classify someone with my sexual interests/curiousities. I tend to agree with you; at least on some level. I may very well be bisexual, but only mildly so. That is to say, while I do LOVE sucking cock intensely, that's about all I have the desire to do with another male.

    About Allen...I am very, very lucky to have found him. Unfortunately, though, he moved far away quite some time ago, so it's been years and years since I've had the pleasure of...well, giving him pleasure. If I were to see him again and if he aged well and if I thought he was up for it, I'd get down on my knees for him again in a heartbeat...and I guarantee you that he wouldn't forget the encounter any time soon!

    :drool :eek