I personally have always been a confident person. Only because I know I'm a good human being. Not ever needing validation for my looks. Until my recent sexual discovery I just flat out haven't paid attention to how I'm personally preceived from anyone but my spouse. Now that I have become fully aware, my question is When men are checking out a lady seriously what are you seeing & thinking? Some men act as if they have X-ray vision to my sex. I have even grabbed myself to let them know they are not very subtle. And how does your s/o not catch you? My husband & I now make a game of it when in large crowds. The men that grab their cocks are bonus points. My friend & I sat for a hour one night just watching. Most men do this. And gay men stare at my husbands junk. Now this is casual attire.