[Ask a Guy] What do you see?

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  1. Gingerbear

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    I personally have always been a confident person. Only because I know I'm a good human being. Not ever needing validation for my looks. Until my recent sexual discovery I just flat out haven't paid attention to how I'm personally preceived from anyone but my spouse.
    Now that I have become fully aware, my question is
    When men are checking out a lady seriously what are you seeing & thinking?
    Some men act as if they have X-ray vision to my sex. I have even grabbed myself to let them know they are not very subtle. And how does your s/o not catch you?
    My husband & I now make a game of it when in large crowds. The men that grab their cocks are bonus points. My friend & I sat for a hour one night just watching.
    Most men do this. And gay men stare at my husbands junk. Now this is casual attire.
     
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    men fail in love with there eyes (what they see) first of then allsorts of criteria follows i.e smile, hair, clothes style etc etc then there convo interests..... there is no exact science

    how am I doing :rolleyes: xx
     
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    80% of the men that I have observed passing by and checking me out stare directly at my junk. Normally they are with their s/o. I'm curious to what they are seeing in their minds. 10% look at my face.
     
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    I seem to always gravitate towards ths legs and butt. Sometimes it's the first thing I notice other times not but I always end up looking at legs and butt.
    As for what my partner thinks? We i have been with some that look also and others that notice before me and then stare at me to see if I look. It is what it is. I look at people . Not all is sex or lust.
     
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    that is very much like we are. Hubby points it out often. I'm such a non judgmental person but I couldnt help but wonder what thoughts go through their minds.
     
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    Sex usually. A potential sexual encounter based upon primal attraction that is gradually whittled down by the knife of reality.
    I'm guessing the only 10% looking at your face are just the ones you've caught doing so. Face, hair, chest, waistline, crotch, butt, and legs are all usually what men look at on a woman to determine her relative sexual attractiveness, and then from there the conscious mind takes over, filling in the realities of the situation(his current relationship status), his insecurities(is she out of my league), and calculating the probable efforts necessary to have said attraction requited(ranging from a simple friendly greeting to some elaborate efforts). Complex processes driven by simple motivations.
     
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    Thank you exactly what I was asking just not very articulately. I think so oddly I guess. I do enjoy learning about people. Thanks again.
     
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    having looked at your junk it is I must say a very inappropriate word to use ;)
     
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    Sometimes there is no thinking at first and after a glance I remember later. Sometimes I am looking and thinking " oh man I'd motor boat her ass " . Sometimes its a simple notice, a look up and down and a " good for her , rock it girl " .other times its " hmmm i cannot tell if I think she is hot or not " . Basically it is all situational and a case by case basis. I literally almost never check a woman out with any intention of hitting on her or any remote chance of sex.
    I just like to look. Even guys , i will be people watching and see a dude and think something like ' i bet that guy has zero problem getting laid " or " how did HE get HER " ..


    Then i proceed to make up a story to their lives based on almost nothing lol
     
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    You made me laugh. Thanks.
     
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    Smile is always 1st…..Life it too short to deal with Grumpy people.

    2nd is eyes…mirror to the soul I don't have time for Zombies
     
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    Agreed on the grumpy people. My goodness there is some misribleunhappy folks is something else we've noticed. We was walking through a casino near OKC and we was competing with eachother on how many smiles we could each get. That's really how I started noticing how most men look at ladies. I wondered how many years I waisted with the grumpy look as I was such a worrier non stop. Life is better with a smile.
     
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    And smiles are contagious
    :D:):D:):D:):D:):D
     
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    I tend to look at women overall without zoning in on any one particular part of her body at first. Mostly, I go for the eyes first, smile second and then take in the rest of her all at once. With age comes experience. What's most important is her personality and demeanor.
     
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    I like a a woman's smile. And her eyes. Pretty eyes and a cute smile just melts me, and I could be putty in her hands. But 90% of the time a woman doesn't even notice me and look right through me like I don't exist. But that's OK. I appreciate the 10% that do.
     
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    I am usually very subtle when I notice an attractive lady. As I approach I glance at her momentarily taking in the big picture. The closer I get its about the face and eyes. If I am facing her as she walks away "its all about the bass".

    Funny story, I was in the office at work and a younger very attractive assistant manager (subordinate to me) was in the office with me. I was facing her as we were talking. She needed a binder off the top shelf of a cupboard. She spun around and put her knee up on the countertop (built in desk) and raised her self up to reach the book. I was instinctively appreciating the view while fairly confident she could not see me when all of a sudden she said "... your checking out my ass aren't you?". Well there was no way to hide it as I could tell by the burning in my face that it was bright red, awkward! I unconvincingly denied gawking at her ass, but by the smile on her face I knew I had been caught!
     
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    Starts with the eyes....the window to one's inner desires.....
     
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    Great story love it.
     
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    Yea, you got caught. But it sounds like she fished for that answer not knowing for sure if you were looking or not. This begs the question, what happened after you admitted to peeking.
     
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    I was in a relationship at the time (as I believe she was too), so nothing happened. There was some sexual tension at times (maybe only on my part) after that and I think she like having that secret over me. She was fun and we worked well together but shortly after that I was transferred, then soon after that she left that store to go to university. I chock it up as one of those missed opportunities due to timing.
     
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