I was trying to decide whre to post this and I decided that the heart of my question is about married relarionships and how to handle the subject of sex in a family setting. I am sure that a lot of SF mwmbers will feel that openness is best but I'm interested in actual experience. I suppose you can also answer how much do your kids know. Do you tell them "don't bother us we will be in the bedroom for a little while" do you engage in pda in front of them? Did your parents do that? My parents used to "sleep late" on weekends years later after a night of sex I suddenly had a sense memory and realized that my parents bedroom smelled of sex on those mornings. My wife has said that in her house they maintained the illusion that her parents had only had sex three times resulting in her and her brother and sister. I am theorizing that the attitude towards honesty about sex with your children can affect the quality as well as the quantity of sex in a marriage Any thought or comments?