What did you know?

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  1. melicious

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    How much did you know when you embarked on your sexual journey? I know the first time I had sex I didn't have a damn clue what I was doing, or, to be honest, what he was doing. I'd experimented with females, but never intercourse. No experimentation with that until I was sixteen. I kid you not, until I began using tampons at 15 I didn't know I had anything but a "peehole" and a "poophole". Even after menstruating for two or three years, I didn't know.

    Later, at EIGHTEEN, and I'm not kidding, I had no idea what he thought he was doing when he went to put his head between my thighs. I'd never heard or thought such a thing. Now, I knew how to suck a cock. I'd been taught and forced more than once.

    I learned everything as I went. Now, I'm thrilled that more people are talking about sex, openly, candidly. I think that's great! I'm concerned, however, with this tendency I'm seeing for young adults to believe that they ought to go into sex knowing exactly what they are doing, being good at it, etc. Anyone else with me?

     
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    what di I know?

    Very little....most of what I have learned have been in the last few years if you can believe it.
     
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    Me too. But the tendency I am seeing here is young people, 18-21,who want to know everything beforehand. Personal discovery is really the most delicious part of the sexual journey. Don't you think?
     
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    Yes, and I hope it continues
     
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    I was much like you, Mel. My first time.... *rolls eyes*..... I had no friggin idea what was going on. And I don't think he did either!

    Oral? No clue!
    As far as oral on ME: no understanding of personal hygiene....
    Oral on HIM: no realization that he was going to shoot cum out.

    Talk about an IDIOT!! Nobody ever talked to me about sex. The only 'talk' i got was -
    "Good girls don't do that "Do what?"

    That's why I love it here. Sometimes, I even feel that my experience - good or bad - has helped someone, somewhere, to get in touch with their physical needs and desires. And more importantly, to appreciate it! My main hope is that they will learn to be comfortable with their sexuality, and be in control of that part of their lives.

    And you are right - advice and shared experiences are great stepping stones - but no one can cross that bridge for you. Though we all feel like we fumble through our early years of eroticism, the 'fumbling through' is the only way to master it.

    Good thread, oh Grand Forum Whore! :bow
     
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    God I love it when you call me a whore.
     
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    Ummm as aone that falls into the 18-21 bracket ...

    I like knowing enough to get myself into trouble ... but at the same time, I don't have ALL the knowledge and still have alot to learn ... this is where being the adventurous type pays off.
     
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    Up until I was 16, I thought that a blow job actually involved just blowing of some type and I couldn't fathom why that was something men would want. I had absolutely no experience going into my first relationship but neither did my boyfriend at the time so it was a lot of fun exploring and experiencing things together literally for the first time.
     
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    I lost my virginity at 15. She was a vergin until then also. I remember getting out of bed after I got my rocks off and going to the bathroom to wash off and it was then that I discovered blood on my pecker. I had heard something about the female and the busting of the cherry but at first when I saw the blood I wondered if I had damaged something on me or her. Other than that I pretty much knew what sex was supposed to be and how to do it from street talk with my buddies and from looking at my dad's girly mags. None of that however taught me anything about pleasing my female partners. I didn't have a clue about that until I got married.
     
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    I think the art of pleasing one's partner is the key here. The desire to do that comes with maturity, I believe. Especially so with guys (*stop throwing things at me!!* :lol)

    But serioiusly, you have to admit that it seems almost imbred in women to enter sexual life with the urge to please her partner. Guys, on the other hand, enter sexual life with the urge to fuck, shoot a load, and go have a smoke...or whatever... The intimacy issue seems to come later. I KNOW I'M GENERALIZING - BUT I'M JUST MAKING A POINT! :nerv

    And my poiint is..... discussing these issues, asking questions, being open and honest on a forum such as :sf helps to deepen people's understanding of the 'whole' act of sex.
     
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    The first few times I had sex was funny but almost ironic.

    The girl I was with was more experienced than me, but she didn't know where her G-spot was.

    From messing around before I already knew the female body very well... and I gave her a Gspot orgasm and did oral on her the first few times we where together.

    She would have huge orgasms..and aftwerwards the one time in the kitchen she started to twitch.. I felt really good about myself. I was hoping it would be enough for her lol.. but eventually one day she said "I want to feel you inside me now"

    I was like ummm...

    She got on top of me and I lost my erection... but it was still hard enough for penetration.. so I thought I was inside her.. and I thought what is the big deal? This doesn't feel that good.. feels ok.

    She was rubbing her pussy against my dick..but as I found out, I wasn't actually inside her lol.

    I talked to a few of my experienced friends and they said to just keep kissing her to get hard..and when she was on top of me to keep kissing her...that way I wouldn't think about staying hard.

    So that is exactly what I did... and she got on top of me and put me inisde her..and my eyes rolled back in my head..I laughed to myself thinking about how I thought I was inside her the night before...and the amazing difference in how the real thing felt.

    She was riding me and she said omigod! you feel so amazing! and that just got me harder...I had a huge hard on and she was riding me really fast moaning and screaming.. and then my dad walked in the house and called my name (we where suppose to go pick out a Christmas tree as it was that time of year)

    I couldn't believe the first time I get hard and my dad ruined it... so both of us are like this isn't happening...but we are lol about it also and we hurried up and got dressed.

    I had to push my hard on down with my boxers and I'm trying to think of anything to make it go away...

    Grandma on the toilet! That naked pic of Roseanne Barr my friend showed me.. anything to get my hard on to go away.

    It eventually went soft and I remember as we where looking at trees..she would come up and whisper stuff in my ear.. like "I cant wait to ride that huge hard on again baby!

    I usually was really picky about trees.. but everytime my dad showed me a tree I was like ya that one is great lets get it... I couldn't focus on a tree when I finally felt what a pussy felt like.

    I wonder to this day if my dad knew.. I suspect he did... lol
     
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    I knew about sex at a fairly early age. My parents never had a sex talk, but they always told me how bad dissapointed they would have been if I had been having sex that young....But, I had my best friend. She pretty much told me everything I needed to know. I lost my virginity at fourteen, and it wasn't that great. Like most couples that young, it did not work out. The next time I had sex was at seventeen with the person I'm with now. My partner was a virgin at the time, and I'd not had that much experience. So, we fumbled with it, had a fun time, and eventually understood the mechanics of pleasing one another.
     
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    That right there is what seperates a man from a boy. And you wonder why I have so little respect for many of my college peers.
     
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    My first time, I knew more or less what to expect. I'd read trashy romance books, seen porn and knew that it would probably hurt and all that. But since then I pretty much learned by doing.
     
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    I was a late bloomer but so were my friends so it ended on being in my advantage. I remember going to a motel with my friends and their mom for spring break in 8th grade and watching MTV Spring Break. Carson Daly had an interview with a guy from Blink 182 who kept answering the question with "masterbation!" and we didnt know what that was. When we got back to school the first thing we did was go to the library and look it up in the dictionary. Naturally we giggled a lot when we read the definition.

    Now I generally learn about things online and get educated in techniques I use, but NOTHING is compared to the real thing. But, reading up did mentally prepare me and let me know what to expect and what was normal, etc.
     
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    I didn't know, I learned it the hard way...
     
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    I disagree, Jess...... you were here and asking questions and learning things before you had sex the first time.
     
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    well, yeah but i didn't really know how to give a blowjob and things like that...
     
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    Still, reading up online helps and keeps you from going in the situation without any knowledge what so ever.
     
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    I wasn't so much in the same position, to be honest. I was insanely curious and began doing some research on my own after watching a few pornos. I'd say around age 14 I knew exactly what head was, eating out, and seen it performed on pornos. So when I got into a relationship at 15, and a few months later when we started messing around when I was 16, I actually had an idea of what to do. My experience was zero, but what I had seen and read elsewhere over the previous 2 years stuck with me. She on the other hand had absolutely no idea what was going on, and in all honesty reminded me of Mel's original post in this thread. One finger hurt her, and she didn't seem to know what I was doing when I would perform oral. All she knew is it felt good and didn't ask questions.

    Later, when she became even more comfortable with me, after a very intense afternoon alone together we cuddled and ended up talking. Explaining these things to her turned us both on even more so we ended up having a very slow, but very enjoyable round 2 for the afternoon. It was then I could tell she not only knew what she was doing, but she was also thoroughly enjoying it and beginning to tell me what feels best, etc.

    But now from all of that experience, and now that I'm single, my confidence is through the roof. At the present time I'm pursuing another female for what I hope to be the start of a lengthy relationship. So those past experiences have definitely helped me become who I am today, and it's very comforting to find places like these where you can sit back in your underwear on a sunday evening and talk to folks about issues, problems, advice, or just jabber on in the bar and grill thread. :lol
     
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