What causes ed?

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  1. panthera leotigrisensis

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    i don't have any major health issues, but then since i was a teen i never had much sexual confidence. i was a bit weird, and not the best looker, so i didn't get much girls. and i think it got to my mind and then knocked my ability to get hardons very full. it's like back then, whenever i'd get a hardon, i'd have like thoughts in my mind about how girls wouldn't like me so what's the point. most girls then used to say i was an ugly shit, but meh, i don't care now, to be honest didn't much back then..i know my limits and accepted myself for who i was.

    now i'm more confident overall, but issue is there still. i can see a woman, feel mentally and physically turned on, but not full below. another thing is that i am endowed, nearly eight inches, and my cousin got a hook up for me, and that time i was horny not fully hard, but hard to about 7 inches and she said i was big. i feel bad, and know this will sound shallow, but meh...that as i'm large women out there are missing out cos i have it to make them feel good and full....(i said it get over it lol)

    i made an appt. with a doctor, but then i don't like therapists cos they say sex is wrong, but i'm going back since they'll have to section me for having sex.

    but is it psychological, and if so what will/can they do? btw, i'm 23 now, and this issue has been there since i was 14.
     
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    Hmmm, sounds a bit psychological to me being that it's been happening for 9 years and followed you out of puberty.
    Can you ever achieve a full erection?
    It's probably best to rule out any medical abnormalities just to be on the safe side but you state you don't have any major medical issues....so, IDK. Have you seen a medical doctor just for this concern? Doesn't sound like fun missing out on all that sex at such a young age.
     
  3. panthera leotigrisensis

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    Yes, I have, but then I have to follow up with them.
     
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    Did you grow up watching pornography?
     
  5. panthera leotigrisensis

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    yes, i did, like most others. and?
     
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    Where are you living? Unless you're going to some religious therapist, I don't know of any that would tell you sex is wrong. My father was a LCSW for 50 yrs and would never tell anyone that. Make sure the therapist is accredited and from a reputable university.... no the University of Phoenix doesn't count.... and real 4 yr university with no religious affiliation.
     
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    Porn is the main cause of ED for young men.

    The way in which porn is accessed and consumed by boys today is much different than it was for previous generations. It desensitizing, and when exposed to it at young age it hard wires the brain to associate sexual arousal with staring at a computer screen and jerking off.

    You're probably going to have to go through a reboot.