For those who may not be familiar, this topic is rooted in another recent topic titled do women look for sexual encounters with married men. The thread got somewhat derailed at the end with debate and point/counter-point in regards to the ethics of cheating, some people arguing that it is okay, others that it isn't. I'd like to ask for everyone's opinion on the subject, and welcome debate and point/counterpoint. I think I made my views pretty clear in the other thread, but for the sake of not forcing people to go there to read, I am of the mind that there is never a good excuse to cheat on your partner. Only you are in control of your life and the choices you make, and unless someone is holding a gun to your head, it's ultimately up to you whether you cheat or not. I do not necessarily think that everyone who cheats is a bad person. People do make bad choices in moments of weakness, and I do think there can be extenuating circumstances which might lead to such behavior, even if it does not justify it. But in the end, the act itself is selfish, and a huge betrayal of trust. There are always other alternatives, and things that one can do. It pretty much doesn't matter how you slice it, cheating is cheating. There is not excusing it or justifying it. If you want sex with someone else, then you need to either discuss it, or break things off, or seek an open relationship, or something else. But if you make the choice to be with one person, that's it. Regardless of religion or anything else, you yourself make a commitment to the other person to be true. You don't get to decide when that commitment applies and does not apply.