Watching Porn and Sex

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  1. macked

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    My g/f and I like to watch porn while we have sex. Do other couples do this; were are 18 and can attach my computer to the tv. Also, can anyone recommend some other free amateur sites, mine are running low and we are sick of watching the same couple have sex when we fuck a lot.
     
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    I used to do it... but tbh I think it actually ruined out sex... well i did it with my ex, and that may be one reason why he's an ex now hahahaha

    youporn.com?
     
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    My late wife and I used to rent a couple porn flicks for a weekend now and then, and watching them always turned into having sex, but for that matter watching about anything turned into having sex. My (new) wife doesn't like to watch porn, but watching soaps turns into having sex.
     
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    We watch porn together with my gf every now and then from her laptop or my PC. It's just hot ;)
    Now as she's gone for a week I've been surfing youporn & redtube and bookmarking clips that seem enjoyable, so we can watch em when she comes back ^^

    A week ago we went on a hotel (she had her entrance examination for med school..) and we had this "business-package" mainly for the internet-access and for breakfast, but it also came with two VOD's per day. So we watched this gang-bang-scenario and started to make some sweet-sweet love while doing it. Eventually we ended up fucking intensely on the floor :brow
     
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    We have a number of sex DVD'S. We always watch one during sex. We especially like to watch group sex DVD'S and fantasize that we are part of the group. It is so hot to watch and listen to sex while we fuck.
     
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    we will either buy or rent a video, come home and watch it...theres been a few times its stayed running while we are having sex, but not often.
     
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    We use to rent tapes and then I would make copies. I had a pretty good collection. We would watch during foreplay. Damn, it would make her good and wet.
    Then she went off the deep end and threw them all away. Now she won't even look anything.
     
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    Can you explain how it ruined your sex? I'm debating on watching it with a girl or not too. I just feel like she'd be watching porn stars that are a lot bigger and hotter than I am, and it would make me feel uncomfortable. What are everyone's thoughts on that?
     
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    Personally I wouldn't want the distraction. Maybe OK ahead of time to get in the mood though (if it were needed).
     
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    Who cares if the porn stars have bigger dicks than you? She's in bed and about to get nekkid with you! :D

    I gather you are fairly young and inexperienced, right? IMHO, one of the best things you can do for your sex life is totally drop any and all inhibitions...like feeling inadequate about watching a porn star who is better hung than you are, for instance. If you're going to watch porn with her, you should want it to turn her on, and that should turn you on, even if the porn doesn't. Feeling insecure because the porn star is bigger is just silly IMO...there's a lot of men who are big (and a lot who are small, and a lot who are just average), so either decide to forget it or decide to feel insecure the rest of you life....seriously, not being a smart-ass.

    I don't think there's anything my wife could ask for that I wouldn't at least say "OK, let's try it!" (And she's about the same way...I doubt there's much I could ask for that she wouldn't say "OK, let's try it!") If you find anything (and I mean pretty much anything) that turns your woman on, do it. In fact, the only way to figure out what turns either of you on (or both of you on) is to try new stuff and see if you like it. Seriously, sometimes the strangest things turn us on, and we can't even say why, we just know they do (only because we've experimented and found it by accident in a lot of cases). I've introduced my wife to various toys, some porn I like, I've made her understand that I love the thought of her masturbating with a toy (whether I'm there helping, just watching, or I'm downstairs and she's upstairs buzzing away!), we often fantasize about all kinds of stuff (including other people), we write erotic stories about each other and ourselves doing all kinds of kinky stuff. I'd much rather have a wild and kinky lay than an inhibited "lay there and do it" screw (unless the "lay there and do it" is VERY passionate, loving, and emotional...but still not inhibited). I'm sure most women would rather have a wild and kinky lay (or a very emotional, passionate, and loving session) than an inhibited screw from someone who's timid and afraid.

    So, dude, drop those inhibitions and give that woman some things she'll never forget! :brow Throw her down and lick ice cream off her stomach, and work your way down until she comes...blindfold her, tie her up, and draw on her crotch with water-color markers until she comes...stick yourself and a vibe in her front and tell her to close her eyes and imagine this is how it would feel to fuck two guys at the same time...take her to a strip bar and both of you get a lap-dance together from the hottest stripper there (and tell the stripper to try to get her off)...buy her a Rabbit-style vibrator, give it to her and tell her to go make a video while she's using it...use your imagination! Help her figure out what gets her aroused AND what actually gets her off. You might discover some cool things...like seeing her get aroused gets you aroused and vice versa. ;)

    HTH!
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    Well.. that's when a little thing called "self esteem" comes into play.

    If you like your self, or are comfortable with your sexuality, then you should be able to do/watch ANYTHING!!!

    When I hear my wife sighing during a Clooney kiss (or some such thing) I don't think "Oh fuck! My time is up. I can't compete..." :eyes
     
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    'Xactly! I often get movies with actors my wife thinks are hot just so they can help me get her warmed up...:brow Sometimes I manage to get her thinking about sex all day while she's at work...needless to say I then usually get pounced on after our daughter is in bed that night! :dgrin
     
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    My wife and I watch porn together often...not every time we have sex , but a good majority of the time...it turns me on just seeing her get turned on by the action on the screen. Actually we only fairly recently started doing this, early 2008...and weve been together since 97.
    When we talked about it and decided to try it it was exciting for both of us, especially since shes quite reserved about sex, but us watching porn has sorta opened her up sexually....Ill never forget after watching one time I asked her if she enjoyed watching porn....she replied " Yes, does that make me a bad person?" and my response to her "Nope,makes you a normal person." Overall...I think watching some porn now and then has added a new dimension to our sex life....
     
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    I see what you guys are saying. It's just I feel like if she's turned, it's by another guy and she's probably fantasizing about that guy during sex. I have a good body and am average sized down there, so it's not like I have low self-esteem. But porn stars are usually hand-picked top of the line so it's hard to compete with that :) Guess just worried that I'd pale in comparison, and she'd grow dependent on needing to be turned on by hotter guys in order to have sex. If one day we didn't have porn, would she still be interested? I guess same would go for me, watching all the super hot girls :) Would I still be interested w/out porn after a while?
     
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    And again I'll ask...so? What's the end result if she's doing you because she is turned on by another guy? Answer: She's doing you. ;)

    My wife and I often go to parties with friends our age, and we often get tipsy and uninhibited and end up flirting, teasing, dancing, etc., with other people that we think are attractive. I recall a friend's recent 40th birthday party...my wife is such a great flirt, she had almost all the guys at the party following her around like puppies most of the night, I couldn't even get to her! Atta girl, baba. ;) Of course, while all the husbands were following my wife around, I was having my way with the multitude of poor ignored wives, so it works for both of us. :dgrin Anyway, every time something like this happens, we are both so turned on that we have incredibly hot sex at the first opportunity. And if she's fantasizing about someone else she was flirting with earlier that night, I don't really care...she'd doing me and making it quite memorable, so really who cares what's spinning through her mind?

    Of course, you do have to consider that we totally absolutely trust each other, have been married for a long time, and have a deep emotional connection. So, we both think it's perfectly fine to flirt, tease, and get turned on by other persons...we both know who we're really sleeping with later that night. ;)

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    I actually think just about anything within reason that turns you on is OK. If I get turned on by watching some porn clip or flirting with some little hottie, then go do my wife, she's happy. If she's all turned on by watching or flirting with some eye-candy construction worker all day or by vibing herself until the batteries are dead, then comes and pounces on me, I'm happy. I'm not going to leave her to run off with a porn file nor am I going to dump her for a cute waitress at a restaurant...she's not going to divorce me to marry her vibrator, nor run off with a construction worker. :D In my mind, porn, eye-candy, fantasizing, cybersex, sex toys, erotic stories, whatever...they all fall into the category of "arousal aids". If your woman is turned on for whatever reason, don't sit there and worry about why...just take advantage of it and be glad that she's turned on. ;)

    And the cool thing that we discovered for us is that I get turned on by knowing she's turned on (regardless of whether I'm the one flipping the switch or not), and vice versa for her. And this discovery came out of me visiting a strip bar (which she had encouraged me to do) and getting a hot lap-dance about a year ago on a business trip. She wanted to know all the details about the lap dance, so I told her all about it over IM. I actually figured she'd be a little miffed, but she called me on the phone a couple hours later and said "I am soooo wet from thinking about you having a naked woman grinding on you...I'm going to fuck the shit out of you when you get home." And she kept her promise. :brow

    I told her I would take her, or send her and some girls, to a male strip show, but she really wasn't interested in that. She said she would rather give a lap dance than get one. :dgrin Then she asked me how I'd feel if she were naked and grinding all over some other guy...I thought about it for just a moment, and said "Actually, I'd be totally turned on by it." :dgrin (In fact, I suggested that we make it happen!) Thus began much of our open fantasizing with each other, erotic story-writing, etc. :brow All this has inspired us to be much more open and honest with each other, and it makes it obvious to each other that we do indeed completely trust each other, I think. I can't see how that's a bad thing for a relationship...nor is good sex resulting from any of the "arousal aids" a bad thing for a relationship.

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    Yeah...Little over a year ago, I had reservations about porn for that reason. I saw later that the only reason I cared was because I thought my hubby- then boyfriend- would think I was second best to some porn star hottie. The reality of it was, I was the one who felt second best because of my dumbass insecurities. I dropped all of that, and actually started to like porn myself. Our relationship blossomed because of all of the inhibition I dropped, and I felt better about who I was because of it.
     
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    I see what you're saying BassDude and Dreama. It's all about trust and having a deep connection. What about the desensitizing effect? After looking at intensely stimulating porn for a while, does sex get boring without porn?
     
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    Nope. In fact, if you ALWAYS watch porn, then have sex, that actually gets a little boring, I think. (I enjoy porn, but I wouldn't say I'm a porn junkie or anything...too much porn just gets boring to me, unless it's something new and unusually exciting.)

    BD
     
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    Very true, and very mature of you to realize it! However, I wouldn't call any insecurities "dumbass" because they're not...they are normal human reactions based on various fears (not being good enough, losing something you love, etc., etc., etc.) The reality is that most of the things we expend emotional cycles worrying about never friggin' happen. ;) I love how you put it: "I dropped all that" (meaning the insecurities). Like almost everything else in life, to keep or to drop your insecurities is a conscious decision. We all have insecurities, and we all learn how to work through them. Some are easy, some are difficult...but life's a journey, not a destination. I look back now at some of the things I worried about when I was 20, and they seem ridiculous to me. I wonder if when I hit 60, I'll look back and think I was ridiculous at 40? :)

    And speaking of life being a journey, don't miss out of enjoying some things with your partner (like porn, fantasizing, what the heck ever is OK with both of you) because of your own insecurities. I think it's healthy to gently brush against each other's inhibitions...not try to push past any boundaries, that's not what I mean...barreling through someone's boundaries will harm the relationship, not help it. What I mean is, in a loving and caring way, help/encourage/reassure each other in dropping inhibitions, insecurities, and all those other things that keep us from completely enjoying life (in general, not just sex). Most of them don't have any real reason to exist anyway.

    BD