This is partly a brief synopsis of a story and partly a book recommendation. I lost my previous job on March 30. Not to worry, the job search looked positive from the start and I started my new job this past Monday. During that time, the gradual decline of the relationship between my wife and I reached the point that we were facing her moving out. We tried a therapist that wasn't that effective for 4 weeks, we'll be trying another with our first session being next Thursday, but today was to have been the day she moves into an apartment. Last night I read a book "Married Man's Sex Life Primer" by Atoh Kay. Well, actually I read just the first 4 chapters which was enough to make me realize something that when I discussed it with her the next morning turned things completely around. You see, I'm a nice guy - the type that fits the description of what one would describe if you were talking about the kind of guy that's marriage material. What we were going through is pretty typical and really fits the explanation of things that happen due to biological drives behind what creates attraction. What my wife needed to have the kind of attraction to me that was necessary for a thriving marriage was behavior that's more alpha male. When I realized that, and made some changes in my attitude this morning.. She completely reversed course. She didn't want the apartment anymore. The I love you's were back. She let me put her wedding ring back on her finger. She was letting me touch and grope her again throughout the day. After the kids went to bed, I was touching her all over, holding her, kissing her. Where just a day before, she'd be tired and reject the first touch - now, she was responding with "mmmm". Just wanted to share, and if anyone else is a nice guy wondering why their wife isn't feeling as close as she used to, I'd recommend checking out the book.