want to return the favour

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  1. look4dsunshine

    look4dsunshine New Member

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    hey i have got a really great boyfriend who i do like alot!! he always fingers me and goes down on me which i really enjoy so i want to return the favour, he askes me to give him a hand job so i do but the thing is he has never come b4 wen i do it, pls can ne1 give me some advice how to give a good hand job! leave out no details!! :)
     
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    I've only jerked off my bf twice. As best as I can tell its just a basic motion, try tightening your grip sometime. I'm not completely sure but i know it worked.
     
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    My hubby tells me it has a lot to do with hand position and grip. If your guy is cut, try putting your hand around it so that the pads of your fingers are running up and down the underside where his scar is, and squeeze your hand. Try tickling his balls a little too. If you have long nails try gently, and very very gently, scraping your nails across the skin of the scrotum, otherwise just run your fingers over them lightly.

    This will make your arm sore, because your arm muscles aren't used to this type of work. Make sure you get comfortable and becareful that your legs don't fall asleep.

    You can tell what he likes the most, because his hips will start to ride your hand. Use plenty of lube and every now and then lean over and suck on the tip a little and flick it with your tongue (if you are comfortable with doing this), it will drive him nuts.
     
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    well I recommend try to talk dirty to him while you do it. really convey the message that it turns you on to give him a handjob and tell him how much you love to see him cum. But don't force it because the pressure will have a negative effect. and by all means don't be affraid to listen to mysticgenie and suck on the tip every once in a while :)
     
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    My gf loves giving me handjobs. -G- was right on, talking dirty is great, encouraging him to just relax and enjoy it, that you are in no hurry because you enjoy touching and looking at his beautiful cock, I love hearing that kind of stuff. I am somewhat sensative on the underside of the head, but not so much that I want focus there. My gf will alternate between maybe starting off by giving me a blowjob for a minute or two and then touching and licking my balls. The first couple light touches right under my balls are the best. She will then break out the lube, all while talking about how much she loves touching my cock and watching me cum. She will alternate her grip or even her hands, will spend most of her time up around the head of my cock, not only will she motion up and down but also will do a little twisting motion while she pumps up and down. And just like what mysticgenie said, when it's starting to get close I will start to push my hips towards her hand. When I start to do that she will speed up and jack the whole length of my cock, I love that. But at any point that I appear to be a little uptight because maybe I am concerned that I'm not fast enough or that maybe she is getting worn out, she will encourage me to just relax. A side note of sorts. If he likes porn and you do not have a problem with it then possible you can do that while he watches porn. Either way, it's no big deal, but handjobs are all about the fantasy, so you need to create that fantasy. Either through words which create that image in his mind or porn or whatever creates that perfect image. Also, she will talk to me about where I want to cum, which is totally up to me because she actually loves doing this. So she'll ask me if I want to stand over her and cum on her face, or in her mouth, or on her tits, or lay there and cum all over her hands. Whatever it takes. If she gets right to it, it probably only takes about 10 minutes to get done, but the first few times I was so uptight that I think it took an hour or maybe even longer. One thing would lead to another, she would be unfamiliar in what to do and then I would get uptight because it was taking to long. So, since he has not yet cum that way you should probably spend time on making sure he is relaxed and enjoying it.
     
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    Ooo, those are some good ideas. I'll have to try some of those.
     
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    Lube it up

    My bf says that I give great handjobs. I personally would recommend lubing his penis up with lotion or one of those creams you can get from sex shops such as Happy Penis Cream. This way the friction is lessened and your hand will be allowed to glide smoothly over his hard cock. I personally love the feel of it and I know he does too. :)
     
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    hmmmmm

    I think that handjobs are an acquired skill. Some girls are just naturally really good at it, like my girlfriend (sexykitten07). I also think it has a lot to do with sexual desire. To be perfectly honest, blowjobs and sex are certainly better most of the time, but if it has been a long time since the guy has come, it actually becomes quite easy. Follow my gf's advice though: lubricants are our friends, after all. And just enjoy yourself, and pay attention to and respond to your partner's reactions. I guess the biggest piece of advice I can give is to throw some variety in. Look at it this way, when you give a blowjob, do you only move your head up and down, or do you try different things like licking and caressing? When you have sex, do you only do it in one position? The answer (I hope) is no! Bring this fact into handjobs.
     
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    I find that most girls handjobs are a little lacking because they don't get into a good rhythm. They just seem to get in a weird spastic motion. You need some lube, a good grip, and get a good rhythm going. Dirty talk and licking, kissing, etc. always help too. Another thing that can be really exciting is adding some titty fucking in with it or a little dry humping (have some sexy lingerie on and rub yourself on his shaft). I realize this gets away a bit from just being a handjob, but it's sure fun!

    If you are just strictly doing a handjob and nothing else, then doing it in public/semi-public places can be really hot too. Like go to the movies and jerk him off while sitting at the show. You just need a little tissue to catch the spuzz!
     
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    Sounds like some good tips. For me being a guy, i like to sometimes ride my hand up and down my shaft and then do the same thing, but go in a semi circular motion like a drill when i get close to orgazm. and then i ride it faster again after about a minute or 30 seconds.
     
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    thanks 2 every1 who replied! took all ur comments into account.
    well recently i suddenly had a big burst of confidence, which was gr8. me n my bf were jus kissin n it was rele turning me on so next thing i no i was kissing his chest n then i moved down to his penis, i was gently massaging his balls stroking his penis and licking, kissing and suckin the head on his penis. well guess wot he came!! yay!! lol!! it was soooo good, and wot i was surprised about is that i rele enjoyed using my mouth on his penis to give him pleasure. but neways i was wondering if ne1 had nemor tips on givin a bloke pleasure down there,wether it b kissing it or strokin, ne tips wil b gr8!!! ;)
     
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    The best advice I would have on blowjobs, being that it is hard for me to cum getting a blow job, is constant motion. Any break in the action and I lose the sensation. So, my girl uses both her mouth and her hands. When she needs to take a break she continues with her hand, and then gets right back to it with her mouth as soon as she catches her breath. After that, it really comes down to the individual, we guys have different things that we like, I personally like a tight grip with her mouth and for her to press hard upward with her tongue against the underside of the head. This is a very sensative area.
     
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    I bumped the Deepthroat Tips thread, and added a few tips that I don't believe were previously included. The Sir Rasor post is real detailed.

    Blessings
     
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    I'd say the first thing you need to do is lubricate your hand and his dick. That way, whatever you do, you shouldn't make him sore. I dunno how close/comfortable you are wid your boyf, but if you watch him when he does it himself I suppose that would be the best way to learn what and how he likes it done.
     
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    I found out a great way to get my guy really going. Just move your hand on him slowly, then straddle him so that your vagina is touching his balls and move in a motion that you would when you are having sex, then it also helps to use some sort of lube or lotion. Then, just think of it as him being inside of you and how that might feel to him. I like to start with my hand looser closest to his body and as it moves away I tighten up. Also, i like to switch it up by going slower and faster and slower and faster. If he isn't cumming, maybe you need to lead him on some more b4 the pants come off, act like your going to do something for a while then don't. And then finally when you do touch him he will feel like he hasn't felt b4. ~Hope this helped and don't have too much fun! ;)
     
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    You can never have too much fun!:D
     
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    One stroke I have enjoyed for years has been my wife's holding me firm with one hand wrapped around my dick, at the same time the other is flat, palm down over the head, moving in small circles. The more lube the better, even to the point of thinking it's getting messy! Enjoy!!