virginity

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  1. andyb

    andyb New Member

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    how bad is it for a 21 yr old male to still be a virgin?
     
  2. melicious

    melicious The Old Maid
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    I don't think that's good or bad. Who's to judge that?
     
  3. azgard

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    i am going to be 23 soon and im still a virgin for me atleast i think it really sucks i have a hard time meeting girls. even though im 23 i look like im 17 so its very difficult gettin girls my age and usually if they find out i am a virgin they kind of stay away from me and i often get younger girls like 15-17 to talk to me but i cannot stand younger girls too annoying. but i feel like im going to lose my mind sometimes . I dont konw if its just me but alot of girls are real bitches the few that are truly nice people are hard to find but you will probalby find somone eventually even it itt akes a couple more years.
     
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    It's all in your mind. Confidence is the sexiest attribute a guy can have.
     
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    melicious The Old Maid
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    Or a gal...
     
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    This is true
     
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    I cant imagine being a virgin at 18, Much less at 23.
    And don't worry about looking young or being a virgin.
    I don't think the Girls shun you because of being a virgin
    or looking young, As we all are virgins and young at one
    point in our lives, I cant even imagine saying (I'm a virgin)
    That should not be a topic of discussion, Just do it instead of
    talking about it.

    Hiker
     
  8. DDH

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    I doubt anyone really cares one way or another with how many people you shared beds. Looking younger than your actual age can be beneficial later on. I know what that's like, I will probably still not be admitted into a bar even after showing real proof of being old enough. Virginity is hard to come by nowadays, so it should be more like a prized possession. Haha!
     
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    its not a good or bad type of decision... you should wait for the right girl, most of the time people who rush into sex with a relationship especially for their first time regret it so just take your time and find the right girl..and besides, everyones first time sucks :p
     
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    sucks but i have faith in u good luck dude
     
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    agreed.
     
  12. jxmetal

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    It's whatever they feel comfortable with.
     
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    i think its only as bad as u make it, the more you think about it the more you will worry and the worse you'll get in situations where it could lead to you losing it
     
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    I lost my virginity really young and regretted it, good on ya for waiting for the right one
     
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    Its not really a big deal at all honestly. I used to be insecure before i lost mine and then realized how pointless it was to be so insecure about it, it only made me more worried/scared, etc and i couldn't relax when i was around girls in intimate situations, so just relax really, theres alot of girls who would respect that you're still a virgin (because you either are waiting for the right person or because its not the only thing you think about and it isn't a big deal to you). Hope that made sense, lol
     
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    I was in my twenties first time and I handled like BigHiker suggested, its not something I thought I needed to tell my partner. I followed her lead, sex is a natural thing to follow in any case, and it was good for me. We kissed and cuddled and fondled and moved onto intercourse, which was devastatingly easy. No orgasm for her, one thing at a time, but after I promised that next time would be better, and it was for her too.

    We were all virgins at one time, either 16 or 21, and we start somewhere and learn from there. A lot of 21 year-old women haven't had terribly brillliant sexual experiences relative to what they will learn later in life, so you my not necessarily be giving her less than she's already experienced. Indeed, if you study sexual hints and tips and browse sites like this, you may be more open minded about exploring sexual pleasure with your first partner than guys who think they know it all.
     
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    I think its cool that your still a virgin!