Virgin question

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  1. TreM

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    So I'm 21, technically a virgin since I've never had sex with a girl, but I want to soon. I just believe in the idea of love before sex, but recently, I've been more interested in sex, kinda ruining my love life because ill stay, uh, hard all day, and elevate the situation myself. Anyone think I should break my virginity?

    If yes, another problem comes in with the self-esteem issues. I think I'm pretty ugly, I have been getting skinnier but my body is nothing special. I'm packing pretty nice so that's not a problem. Should I even let anything bother me?
     
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    get over that as soon as possible
     
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    Can't help it. I only got called cute, attractive and sexy towards the end of high school. Kinda brain programmed,
     
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    you see? you jus answered your question, you are programmed. get over that bullshit
     
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    Ha, thanks. I'm trying. I usually like what I see in the mirror, I just get a little public anxiety that no one else will.
     
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    again, your previous experiences influence your present
     
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    You have good words, I appreciate it.
     
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    I got psychology for free
     
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    You're a psychologist? Pretty cool. How long have you been one?
     
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    Sorry if that was too personal a question, I was just curious.
     
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    TreM,
    Anxiety complex is what MrC means and he got his degree from life experiences.
    No dude, nothing to worry about whatsoever.
    Find a nice girl; best one who has some experience and many that have would just love taking a young man's cherry from him :)
    Enjoy that experience then blossom!
     
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    Being 21 and a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. If you want to get it over with, then do it. Love before sex is a fantastic thing to have but sometimes that's not always an option especially when physically and mentally you are ready to just "get it over with". If you do decide to get it over with, just make sure you do it with someone you trust.

    As far as your looks are concerned, I can't say whether you are cute or not, as you haven't posted any photo's of yourself here on the forum. What I can say though is that confidence is extremely sexy. I too was "programmed" to think I was unattractive, chunky and all around not wanted through high school. However, I never had a shortage of friends or guys and girls to date. I was confident. I didn't put out either until well after I graduated high school.

    Relax and enjoy being you. Stop trying to focus so much on what others have told you about yourself and focus more on what you truly think of yourself. If you think you're awesome, pretty soon others will start thinking you're awesome too. :)
     
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    Here's another thing to think about when you're deciding: You'll still be interested in sex, hard all day, and so on after you lose your virginity too.
     
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    You still have a couple of years to go before you reach my age when I lost my virginity. :) Do you live at home with your parents?
     
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    ^ more than the truth, because if you do end up having sex, but it's only a one night stand, it'll get worse the longer you go without it again.
     
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    So I'll be hornier after sex?? Goody, just what I need lol.

    And yes, I still live with my parents until schools over and I move on to the military.
     
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    My guess is that your problem will solve itself when you move out. Myself, I was in a relationship a few months after moving. I would suggest that you don't throw away your romantic intentions just to get sex. Girls tend to love romance. I also bet that uniform won't do any harm :D.
     
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    nah

    I was asking maself a lot, now I have the answers to all the questions

    nothing to worry about

    you know it all

    gotta be your experience, isn't it

    :lol